How to Use Your Child as a Pawn: Using April to get Back at Dad

This is part of our first bout with Parental Alienation in 2010-11. 
All texts are in BLUE, my notes will be in RED

My wife, our children and I show up every single weekend to see or pick up April. Even when we are not allowed to pick her up because Christy had made alternate plans for her. We would still drive two hours to get to see her practice gymnastics and see her look up at me and smile after almost every sticking, landing or maneuver tackled and accomplished.Unfortunately, at that time we had a very vague court order that had no specific dates or times for shared custody. A big mistake if you are dealing with someone who is inconsistent, volatile, and displays characteristics of a personality disorder.

Since Christy had recently began demanding that I get hers and April’s permission, I sent Christy a text message on February 9, 2011 and reminded her of our plans to take family portraits.

Text from Me to Christy: 
"Reminder we r taking family portaits the weekend of the 19th . I will be picking up April and will call or text to make arrangements with YOU." 
I received no response.

Christy initiated the texts on February 19, 2011. 
She started off by saying she was unaware of any plans that I had to pick up April even though we had been driving there every single weekend for the past 4 years, not to mention the text from 10 days ago.

During the text exchange Christy abruptly changes her mind about letting me see April. ADDITIONALLY, she claims April had cramps and will not be attending gymnastics either, so now we won’t even be allowed to see her.  
She knows that we show up at practice every weekend, again, to at least get to watch her do gymnastics. 

Feb 19th  2011
Christy to me:
I am not sure if u were planning on taking April today however I am not aware of any planned visit. Please keep me informed of when you will be visiting April. Also if she chooses to go with you please allow her to call me. The last time you took her you refused communication and I am hoping that doesn’t occur again. Thanks. 
(In above text she is referring to Christmas day which is the last time we had April. We never discourage April from communicating with Christy. In fact we do the opposite. Notice how she starts off with a lie: "I am not aware of any planned visit." When she starts off like this I know what is coming.)

Me to Christy:
You are well aware that we pick up April every weekend except when you do not allow us.

Christy to me:
No that has not been the case. We have always arranged visits. Also I have never not allowed visits in the past, rather lately April has expressed her concerns with your visitation and fears going to your house. We need an arranged visitation prior to you taking her. I had plans with her this weekend. Also April has cramps and will not be at gym. I have an appointment on tues for counseling for April to get to the reason why she refuses to go to your house and her feelings towards this situation. Thanks.
So far it has taken Christy 2 months to schedule a therapy appointment for April. It will be another month an a half before I am called in.
Notice above how Christy abruptly changes her mind, she knows we show up at gym every weekend anyways, so she also is keeping April out of gym. April’s menstrual cycle now occurs on whatever weekend is convenient for Christy...and now April. 

Me to Christy:
I am glad you made an appointment for a counselor. I would like to know the name of the therapist please. Thank u

Christy to me:
I will text it to you after her first visit and let you know if we could all sit down with her in the near future. 
Note: Christy doesn’t want me to talk to the therapist and tell her the truth. The therapist later called me on her own and insisted that I come. Weeks later, on the day that I am on my way to come see the therapist for the first time, I received a number of  calls and text messages trying to keep me from coming. Christy even calls the therapist saying I am not coming.  

Christy to me:
Also, please text me your address.
I have lived at the same address for 5 years. The reason she doesn’t know my address is she has never been to our daughter’s other home to pick her up or drop her off.

Me to Christy:
So u r refusing to give me name of therapist?

Christy to me:
Not at all I want to make sure she is right for April.

In other words, yes she is. She wants someone who she can tell her side of the story to and have her believe it. This is a common strategy for Christy that works with the most gullible of "professionals." Again, had any of these "professionals taken the time to look at the evidence or ask some specifics the alienation would not have been possible. 

We were unable to pick up or see April this weekend.
Whenever I am able to get Christy on the phone, she simply states to ask April knowing that April will say no because they have made previous plans or because April is instructed to do so.