Women Shine in Fight Against
PARENTAL ALIENATION
Update: Many have been inspired by Cyndi Cruz Oxman. Courtney Lange has joined in the fight to end this abuse. (See Pictures below)
There are also many more women who have been doing everything they can to raise awareness. So many that if I attempt to name them all, I will surely leave some very prominent warriors out. But I can not fail to mention a few of my good female friends by name: Elaine Cobb Johnson, Filmmaker Ginger Gentile, Joanie Kloth-Zanard, and of course Wendy Archer. 
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Top Left Clockwise: Jessica Lynn DiMaria, Cyndi Cruz Oxman, and Kristi Beck sharing stage with Lita Ford
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Cyndi Cruz Oxman, alienated grandmother fighting to be in her granddaughter's life.
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Kristi Beck Perera sharing the stage with Lita Ford. Two courageous women fighting against Parental Alienation.

Jessica Lynn DiMaria video
Parental Alienation: a mother fights for her son (Part 1 of 14)

Cyndi Cruz Oxman...

Kristi Beck Perera...

 Courtney Lange is inspired!

Three women have been putting me to shame lately; me and, I believe, many of us who consider ourselves advocates. They have not only taken a stand and stepped up. They have also stepped out. Stepped out of their comfort zones.
If you and I have ever had a conversation about raising awareness of Parental Alienation and the devastating effects it has on our children, you know that this is something I talk about; getting out of your comfort zone and doing something about it.  
Lately, I must admit, I have been more talk than walk. I have stayed well within my comfort zone.
Along comes Jessica Lynn DiMaria doing something that I have been wanting to do, Cyndi Cruz Oxman doing something I should be doing more of, and Kristi Beck doing something I have only daydreamed of doing.
I have to acknowledge their courage, strength, and drive to make a difference.
During the past few weeks these courageous women have gotten out of their comfort zones in a monumental way.
Jessica Lynn DiMaria is an alienated mother who has made more than a dozen short videos describing her very personal experiences with Parental Alienation (PA) and --sometimes through tears, sometimes with disgust, but always courageously--recounting her fight to be in her son’s life. Her son is turning 18. He has been brainwashed by his father and alienated from Jessica for past 13 years.
Kristi Beck Perera doesn’t just attend music concerts of iconic rock stars, she brings a sign, gets herself pulled on stage, and talks about Parental Alienation with fellow advocate and rock n roll legend, Lita Ford. Lita Ford is also an alienated mother and like Kristi and too many of us has fought a long hard battle to be allowed a loving relationship with her children. Kristi also runs the PA support page: Alliance for Alienated Mothers.
Cyndi Cruz Oxman is an alienated grandmother fighting alongside her daughter, Laura, to be allowed to have a relationship with her granddaughter. Cyndi Cruz Oxman has been rallying in front of the Pima County Superior Courthouse in Arizona holding up a sign, gathering support, and raising awareness in her fight against our dysfunctional family court system and the men and women who abuse their children by interfering with the relationships with the other loving parent and/or grandparents.
Think about these women for a minute. Think about what they are doing.
One went to a rock concert with a sign hoping to get Lita Ford’s attention. Maybe Kristi was a bit nervous about bringing a sign to a rock concert. I mean what were people going to think? What if Lita Ford ignores her and her sign? Not the time or the place some might think. After all, this was a rock concert, not a protest or a rally. Fortunately Lita Ford and most alienated family members know that it is ALWAYS the right time and place to talk about this form of child abuse. Lita pulled Kristi up on her stage, mid-concert, and spoke about Parental Alienation.
One mother has opened up to us on several videos. Jessica Lynn DiMaria has invited friend and stranger into her world of hurt. Placing videos on social media sharing the heartbreak and the pain that she has, up until now, silently endured. Her videos are raw with emotion. Jessica sometimes seems at a loss for words, the horridness of this nightmare will do that to you. At times her voice breaks, and in one of her videos she cries throughout its entirety, still she goes on; emotionally exposed yet undeterred.  
A grandmother stands in front of a courthouse with a sign.
Take another look at the picture of Cyndi standing in front of a courthouse holding a sign.
A grandmother.
Standing on a corner.
In front of a courthouse.
Holding a sign.
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How do you ignore that? Passersby don’t. They look. Some stop. They will ask questions and move on still not fully understanding. While others understand all too well; having lived through this nightmare or currently living through it.
As I write this I am struck by a thought. We say we have “lived” through this or are “living” through it. I think what we are going through with a disturbed alienator manipulating the minds of our children or our family courts and mental health systems co-opting in the severing of life's most essential loving relationships would more accurately be described as “dying” through it. The insanity of what we experience in watching our children undergo this vile form of abuse while not being able to do anything about it sucks the life out of you. A part of us-- and our children --die a little every day. With the holidays coming up, I’m sure some of you would agree that on some days we die a little bit more than on others.
Sometimes fighting back brings some “Living” back into our lives. I know it helps me more when I’m doing something to raise awareness than when I’m not. 
It’s not for ourselves that we fight for but for our children. In our case it’s not what is happening to us that is killing us but rather what is happening to our children. Children are the innocent victims caught up in this insanity and we, the only people who can help them, are made powerless by a dysfunctional family court system.
So why are Cyndi Cruz Oxman, Jessica Lynn DiMaria, and Kristi Beck Perera (and now Courtney Lange) getting so far out of their respective comfort zones?
These bold women are doing what normal, everyday people have historically done whenever they have come across something so wretched and evil that they feel compelled to do something about it. Keyword: compelled.
They gather the courage to act in ways that would make anyone feel uncomfortable. It’s the last thing they want to do believe me. I’m sure Kristi would have rather just be enjoying time with her daughter, Jessica would prefer to be posting videos of her son and all of her children laughing, enjoying life together, and Cyndi would rather be standing outside her granddaughter's school waiting for her granddaughter to wrap her arms around her in a long, warm embrace.
All these wonderful women want, is what every alienated parent and grandparent wants, and that is to be allowed to have the loving relationship which God intended with their own children or grandchildren.
And they want is people to know this: what is happening to our children is beyond tragic and something has to change. But it can be a long and at times lonely road to educating the public on this insidious form of abuse. Maybe for now we'll hold up our signs, share some videos, and while we hope to get your much needed attention, we'll settle for just not dying a little bit more today.


See more of Jessica Lynn DiMaria Parental Alienation Videos on:
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCEKtpQThminnGt6T7SxydBA
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jessica.a.dimaria/media_set?set=vb.100003775364641&type=2