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How Long? Not long. Let's Do This!
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"How long? Not long because the arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice. How long? Not long." ~MLK
A great deal is happening on all fronts of this fight against Parental Alienation and our dysfunctional, incompetent, and at times outright corrupt family courts and mental health systems. Change is coming and in some cases it’s evidently here.
But we have a ways to go.
The question of how long have we had
to deal with this injustice can only be answered one way—far too long. By, "we" I mean alienated fathers, mothers, grandparents, siblings, all of our alienated children. We are no longer sitting quiet, no longer accepting that this is just how it is. We are speaking out and our voices are being heard.
So how much longer will we have to endure the unbearable? Not long.Although the movement to raise awareness of parental alienation has gained momentum worldwide, it brings little solace to parents who have not seen their children in weeks, months, or years. But even just a little solace to a loving parent suffering through this nightmare is like slipping on a pair of warm mittens in the midst of a cold, unbearable chill. It brings a much needed, momentary comfort before the reality that they are caught in an arctic nightmare sets back in. For too many, it’s already been too long.
To those parents--and especially our silent allies our children-- I offer you warm mittens, a wool scarf, and if you will indulge me, a warm fire we can gather around.
A few weeks ago, a judge in Michigan acknowledge on video this about the collective nightmare we share: “ANY lawyer, judge, mental health professional or case worker who has ANY involvement in the family courts is aware that one of the most devastating issues we face is that of Parental Alienation.” Yes, a judge said this. From her bench in the fittingly dark robe. She went on to add that it is one of the most difficult problems to address. It is.
But we just got another step closer to actually dealing with it, because one of them, a judge, acknowledging that parental alienation exists and that it is difficult to deal with. (Support for Judge Gorcyca)
Warm mittens.
This year there has been push towards shared parenting. It’s difficult to justify an argument which goes against maximizing time for each loving parent. This hasn’t stopped some from proposing the argument that some parents are unfit to parent. In these cases we simply need to determine if the “unfit” parent became so at the moment of the breakdown of the relationship or if there is a real issue that has been there all along which needs to be addressed. Common sense, not false accusations, should dictate in which cases there should be equal custody and which should not.
At least 20 states are moving towards changing laws and giving loving fathers just as much time as their counterparts in divorce or separation cases. In a 2014 article in USA Today emphasized that shared parenting could be the new divorce outcome. This April, The Wall Street Journal wrote about a big shift in custody disputes moving towards shared parenting. Even more noteworthy to us dealing with an alienating parent is a recent law in Oklahoma which expands power to enforce visitation and impose sanctions in cases where one parent withholds or otherwise interferes with the other parent’s time with their child. Impose sanctions for interference.
Sanctions for interference!
A wool scarf.
Social media doesn’t mess around. In the last few years I have witnessed the number of groups, pages and events speaking out and dealing with our nightmare grow exponentially. But more significantly, is the willingness of family members experience this nightmare to speak out about the injustices their children face. People are Liking, Sharing, Commenting, and creating their own content in the form of memes, commentary, and even videos.
Social media has also allowed us to plan and hold live events in front of court houses, in the streets, and at our state capitols. All of which are making it harder for the media to ignore the injustices our families are living.
Our voices are getting louder and they are being heard.
Earlier this year our three daughters at home were invited by Jason Patric, founder of Stand Up For Gus, to the world renowned Vocal Corner Store in Los Angeles and film a Public Service Announcement (PSA) for Parental Alienation Awareness. Fpr our girls it was exciting. Especially when they arrived and saw pictures of Beyonce, Nicki Minaj, Katy Perry, Jennifer Lopez, Jada Pinkett-Smith, Martina McBride and others on the studio walls who had practiced or recorded there before. But for Tammy and me it was bittersweet. To hear our girls talk on camera about what it means to no longer have their big sister in their lives was emotional. It was impossible for Tammy and me to hold back tears. We stood behind the cameramen openly crying. Chris Blanchard came up and put his arm around us. We are proud of our girls for doing so well. Once the PSA is released it will be another tool we can use to spread awareness.
A warm fire.
A great deal is happening on all fronts of this fight against Parental Alienation and our dysfunctional, incompetent, and at times outright corrupt family courts and mental health systems. Change is coming and in some cases it’s evidently here.
But we have a ways to go.
The question of how long have we had
to deal with this injustice can only be answered one way—far too long. By, "we" I mean alienated fathers, mothers, grandparents, siblings, all of our alienated children. We are no longer sitting quiet, no longer accepting that this is just how it is. We are speaking out and our voices are being heard.
So how much longer will we have to endure the unbearable? Not long.Although the movement to raise awareness of parental alienation has gained momentum worldwide, it brings little solace to parents who have not seen their children in weeks, months, or years. But even just a little solace to a loving parent suffering through this nightmare is like slipping on a pair of warm mittens in the midst of a cold, unbearable chill. It brings a much needed, momentary comfort before the reality that they are caught in an arctic nightmare sets back in. For too many, it’s already been too long.
To those parents--and especially our silent allies our children-- I offer you warm mittens, a wool scarf, and if you will indulge me, a warm fire we can gather around.
A few weeks ago, a judge in Michigan acknowledge on video this about the collective nightmare we share: “ANY lawyer, judge, mental health professional or case worker who has ANY involvement in the family courts is aware that one of the most devastating issues we face is that of Parental Alienation.” Yes, a judge said this. From her bench in the fittingly dark robe. She went on to add that it is one of the most difficult problems to address. It is.
But we just got another step closer to actually dealing with it, because one of them, a judge, acknowledging that parental alienation exists and that it is difficult to deal with. (Support for Judge Gorcyca)
Warm mittens.
This year there has been push towards shared parenting. It’s difficult to justify an argument which goes against maximizing time for each loving parent. This hasn’t stopped some from proposing the argument that some parents are unfit to parent. In these cases we simply need to determine if the “unfit” parent became so at the moment of the breakdown of the relationship or if there is a real issue that has been there all along which needs to be addressed. Common sense, not false accusations, should dictate in which cases there should be equal custody and which should not.
At least 20 states are moving towards changing laws and giving loving fathers just as much time as their counterparts in divorce or separation cases. In a 2014 article in USA Today emphasized that shared parenting could be the new divorce outcome. This April, The Wall Street Journal wrote about a big shift in custody disputes moving towards shared parenting. Even more noteworthy to us dealing with an alienating parent is a recent law in Oklahoma which expands power to enforce visitation and impose sanctions in cases where one parent withholds or otherwise interferes with the other parent’s time with their child. Impose sanctions for interference.
Sanctions for interference!
A wool scarf.
Social media doesn’t mess around. In the last few years I have witnessed the number of groups, pages and events speaking out and dealing with our nightmare grow exponentially. But more significantly, is the willingness of family members experience this nightmare to speak out about the injustices their children face. People are Liking, Sharing, Commenting, and creating their own content in the form of memes, commentary, and even videos.
Social media has also allowed us to plan and hold live events in front of court houses, in the streets, and at our state capitols. All of which are making it harder for the media to ignore the injustices our families are living.
Our voices are getting louder and they are being heard.
Earlier this year our three daughters at home were invited by Jason Patric, founder of Stand Up For Gus, to the world renowned Vocal Corner Store in Los Angeles and film a Public Service Announcement (PSA) for Parental Alienation Awareness. Fpr our girls it was exciting. Especially when they arrived and saw pictures of Beyonce, Nicki Minaj, Katy Perry, Jennifer Lopez, Jada Pinkett-Smith, Martina McBride and others on the studio walls who had practiced or recorded there before. But for Tammy and me it was bittersweet. To hear our girls talk on camera about what it means to no longer have their big sister in their lives was emotional. It was impossible for Tammy and me to hold back tears. We stood behind the cameramen openly crying. Chris Blanchard came up and put his arm around us. We are proud of our girls for doing so well. Once the PSA is released it will be another tool we can use to spread awareness.
A warm fire.
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Filming: Stand Up For Gus -PSA
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In the meantime, we are still feeling the cold chill and emptiness which comes with knowing we have children who are unable to show us love and affection without suffering through the emotional ramifications that are assured to come from the alienating parent. Our children are still out in the harrowing cold and needing to be saved from this insidious form of abuse. Their dilemma is our dilemma. I know it’s why most of us fight.
Like the opening quote by Dr. King says, “The arc of the moral universe bends towards justice.” We are seeing the curve, but the arc is a long one. That means that there is much more work to be done. We stand on moral ground. We know what is happening and it is up to us to work harder to fight against ignorance. It’s up to us to raise the conscious awareness of people who have the ability to fully understand our cause but simply need information to understand it. Once we enable them to see the harm that is being done to our children without them having to experiencing it, then they will join us in our fight.
Loving parents are in the midst of one of the greatest social movements in history. We are fighting a battle for our children. Because we are experiencing it, we get it.
I want other people to get it!
I am committed to doing whatever I can to bring as many people into the know as possible. If I don’t then my family, our children, and especially Megan, would have gone through this wintry nightmare for nothing.
Like the opening quote by Dr. King says, “The arc of the moral universe bends towards justice.” We are seeing the curve, but the arc is a long one. That means that there is much more work to be done. We stand on moral ground. We know what is happening and it is up to us to work harder to fight against ignorance. It’s up to us to raise the conscious awareness of people who have the ability to fully understand our cause but simply need information to understand it. Once we enable them to see the harm that is being done to our children without them having to experiencing it, then they will join us in our fight.
Loving parents are in the midst of one of the greatest social movements in history. We are fighting a battle for our children. Because we are experiencing it, we get it.
I want other people to get it!
I am committed to doing whatever I can to bring as many people into the know as possible. If I don’t then my family, our children, and especially Megan, would have gone through this wintry nightmare for nothing.
So what's next?
On September 1, 2015, Joe Sorge's powerful and revealing documentary DIVORCE CORP. will be available on Netflix streaming for the first time. It showcases divorce cases of our friend and vocal advocate, Wendy Archer who heads one of the largest and most active support groups in the country. Parental Alienation Awareness Organization USA North Texas Chapter (More Below)
On September 1, 2015, Joe Sorge's powerful and revealing documentary DIVORCE CORP. will be available on Netflix streaming for the first time. It showcases divorce cases of our friend and vocal advocate, Wendy Archer who heads one of the largest and most active support groups in the country. Parental Alienation Awareness Organization USA North Texas Chapter (More Below)
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Divorce Corp is an explosive new documentary that exposes the appalling waste, and shameless collusive practices within the U.S. family law industry. More money and more people flow through the family courts than any other court system in America combined - now grossing over $50 billion a year. The movie and the book are available on our website https://www.divorcecorp.com.... DIVORCE CORP. has been described as "...a shocking exposé of the inner workings of the $50 billion a year U.S. family law industry, Divorce Corp shines a bright light on the appalling waste, and shameless collusive practices seen daily in family courts. It is a stunning documentary film that anyone considering marriage or divorce must see."
For those of you who have not seen it, I highly recommend that you watch it. |
In the following year I will be supporting a new documentary by Ginger Gentile, a New York filmmaker. It will be the third documentary by this film maker and the second to deal with Parental Alienation and the systems in place which were meant to support families but instead helps perpetuate the unjust separation of loving parents and their children. The first film, Borrando a Papa (Erasing Dad) drew national attention in the originating country (Argentina). The film’s release and showings were delayed and banned once those making money from the prolonging conflicts were exposed on film. The attempt to censor the film only helped to bring it more attention. Eventually a court order preventing from showing the film was overturned. Because of this film and the awareness that it brought, not only were laws changed in some countries but people began to take notice the injustices done to families and especially children. (Erasing Dad website)
I have spoken at length with Ginger Gentile both over the phone and in person about her next film. It will be an international documentary which will bring much needed awareness to this movement.
In the meantime there is something more you can do, let’s make this documentary happen. In the next few weeks more information will be coming out about this game changing documentary.
Coming soon is A Public Service Announcement, an international documentary, more change…and a thawing.
I have spoken at length with Ginger Gentile both over the phone and in person about her next film. It will be an international documentary which will bring much needed awareness to this movement.
In the meantime there is something more you can do, let’s make this documentary happen. In the next few weeks more information will be coming out about this game changing documentary.
Coming soon is A Public Service Announcement, an international documentary, more change…and a thawing.
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