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More Heartbreaking stories of parents fighting disturbed ex's and malicious family court system.
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Joe Fitzhugh
Here is my story....
I dated my daughters mother in high school. we were on and off until graduation then we both went our own ways. By a random stroke of luck I was a fireman for the small town she lived in and I happened to run in to her after we were cleaning up from a call that happened right next door to her. We started talking and dating again, I moved in, and we had our first child.
After she was born slowly I was getting accused of cheating. Every where I would go I would be accused of cheating. I would be at the fire department, on a call, driving home. I was accused of cheating while I was running a blood drive at our station. It got to the point where I could not take it anymore and I had to leave. So, I did. We went our own ways but I decided to try to make it work for my daughter. If she was not involved I would not have come back.
But yet again I was told I was cheating. When I told her that I was leaving this is when the conflict really started. I was thrown out of our house in just shorts. No socks shoes or shirt. I was lucky to be living 3 houses away from a fellow fire fighter and he brought me in. He went over to get at least a shirt and at this time her mother and sister were there. He was confronted and told that I had beat her and I was not allowed to have any of my stuff. He was able to however get a t shirt and pair of sandals for me.
Later that day I had called the local police to get my stuff back from her. she finally decided to give me my stuff back. I had a friend helping me to get out quicker and I would put my stuff in a pile by the door and my friend would take it to his truck. As I would put things in the pile she would take what she wanted (even tough it was mine). I was not allowed in to our garage which had all my tools. my TV and my motorcycle in it. The police officer told me that I needed to have the registration or title to get the bike. The bank had the title and the registration was in the bike.
I left and started my like back at my parents house. Randomly one day I was asked to come get my bike. Her parents had nailed the door shut and I had to break the door in but I got it and had to ride it back to my parents house in the soaking rain.
I was kept from my daughter over the holidays for about 6 months. I missed her first Halloween, Thanksgiving, and Christmas. On Christmas I got an email from the mother saying that I can meet them at a McDonald's for 2 hours and for every gift I get her it adds another 5 min on to my time.
Finally we were able to get in to court and get things started. I was offered very few hours and I was offered supervised visits. I did not deserve them but I took them because I wanted to see my daughter. She told the judge that I beat her and the child. I did drugs. I molested my daughter. I threatened her and her family. and that I had a sex addiction.
This went on for almost 9 months. We had to wait for our county to do an investigation on us due to all of the accusations. Every time I picked my daughter up with my mother (who was the supervisor) we were told we were trash and that she will know the truth soon and they will make sure that I never get that. I was given a protection order against the child's mother because she told the judge I beat her.
Finally after almost a year we were able to get back in front of a judge. By this time I had met a new girl and was happy in our relationship. The child's mother did not like this and did everything she could to keep her away from the child. Even though she has yet to meet her.
The judge took the supervised visitation off and gave me more time. He also looked at the child's mother and told her that my new girlfriend had everything right to be around her.
Now here we are and still to this day we are fighting, I am still being alienated, and all I am trying to do is be a dad. I have paid child support every time and have done everything I can to be in my daughters life. Being a father with a high conflict co-parent is one of the hardest things that I have ever done/will do. It takes everything in me not to just say I am done with this. this is not how being a parent should be. But I have stayed because of my daughter. I love that little girl more than I could ever love anything and I always will. I know that being her parent along with her mother will be a challenge.
Here is my story....
I dated my daughters mother in high school. we were on and off until graduation then we both went our own ways. By a random stroke of luck I was a fireman for the small town she lived in and I happened to run in to her after we were cleaning up from a call that happened right next door to her. We started talking and dating again, I moved in, and we had our first child.
After she was born slowly I was getting accused of cheating. Every where I would go I would be accused of cheating. I would be at the fire department, on a call, driving home. I was accused of cheating while I was running a blood drive at our station. It got to the point where I could not take it anymore and I had to leave. So, I did. We went our own ways but I decided to try to make it work for my daughter. If she was not involved I would not have come back.
But yet again I was told I was cheating. When I told her that I was leaving this is when the conflict really started. I was thrown out of our house in just shorts. No socks shoes or shirt. I was lucky to be living 3 houses away from a fellow fire fighter and he brought me in. He went over to get at least a shirt and at this time her mother and sister were there. He was confronted and told that I had beat her and I was not allowed to have any of my stuff. He was able to however get a t shirt and pair of sandals for me.
Later that day I had called the local police to get my stuff back from her. she finally decided to give me my stuff back. I had a friend helping me to get out quicker and I would put my stuff in a pile by the door and my friend would take it to his truck. As I would put things in the pile she would take what she wanted (even tough it was mine). I was not allowed in to our garage which had all my tools. my TV and my motorcycle in it. The police officer told me that I needed to have the registration or title to get the bike. The bank had the title and the registration was in the bike.
I left and started my like back at my parents house. Randomly one day I was asked to come get my bike. Her parents had nailed the door shut and I had to break the door in but I got it and had to ride it back to my parents house in the soaking rain.
I was kept from my daughter over the holidays for about 6 months. I missed her first Halloween, Thanksgiving, and Christmas. On Christmas I got an email from the mother saying that I can meet them at a McDonald's for 2 hours and for every gift I get her it adds another 5 min on to my time.
Finally we were able to get in to court and get things started. I was offered very few hours and I was offered supervised visits. I did not deserve them but I took them because I wanted to see my daughter. She told the judge that I beat her and the child. I did drugs. I molested my daughter. I threatened her and her family. and that I had a sex addiction.
This went on for almost 9 months. We had to wait for our county to do an investigation on us due to all of the accusations. Every time I picked my daughter up with my mother (who was the supervisor) we were told we were trash and that she will know the truth soon and they will make sure that I never get that. I was given a protection order against the child's mother because she told the judge I beat her.
Finally after almost a year we were able to get back in front of a judge. By this time I had met a new girl and was happy in our relationship. The child's mother did not like this and did everything she could to keep her away from the child. Even though she has yet to meet her.
The judge took the supervised visitation off and gave me more time. He also looked at the child's mother and told her that my new girlfriend had everything right to be around her.
Now here we are and still to this day we are fighting, I am still being alienated, and all I am trying to do is be a dad. I have paid child support every time and have done everything I can to be in my daughters life. Being a father with a high conflict co-parent is one of the hardest things that I have ever done/will do. It takes everything in me not to just say I am done with this. this is not how being a parent should be. But I have stayed because of my daughter. I love that little girl more than I could ever love anything and I always will. I know that being her parent along with her mother will be a challenge.
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