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Note from an alienated father... back to Home Page
My contribution in life besides being everything I can be to my family will be to do what I can to bring attention to Parental Alienation.
I wish to make this comprehensive website a place where targeted parents, targeted children, as well as alienating parents can get some help and support.
But I also want it to be more than that. Much more.
What is happening to our family is horrific and I know this much is true: it doesn't end well for me. This rarely ends well for the loving parent. It doesn't end well for my supportive wife who has embraced her step-daughter as one of her own. It doesn't end well for our alienated daughter's 3 other daughters who miss their sister dearly, but rarely ask about her anymore. No. This doesn’t end well for our family.
But it ends tragically for our daughter. ~back to home page
My family and I have an incredible support group of friends and family. We have our faith. We have our sense of justice, insight, and a belief that all things, good or bad, happen for a reason. Most of all we have each other. We continue to be strong and we will be okay.
What is truly heartbreaking is what our alienated daughter is going through. Imagine having to live the rest of your life where you have to hate one of the two people that you are most innately and naturally wired to love unconditionally--a mother or a father. Now imagine that as a child you have been encouraged-- at the threat of losing the emotional affection of one parent-- to disparage, denigrate, and lie about the other parent. It's a horrific situation to have to be in. It reminds me of the decision that Meryl Streep's character had to make in Sophie's Choice.
In the mental health field it is what is referred to as a double bind; a no-win situation where you are damned if you do and damned if you don't. It is crazy-making situation in a literal and figurative sense.
When I think about our daughter, I have to stop at that point.. It breaks my heart to think about her tortured soul. Her heart desires to love both parents, but she isn't allowed to do so.
So, what do you do?
I want this website to be about taking action against all aspects of parental alienation. I told myself a while ago and have to remind myself often that I am not a victim. I am not a victim.
I have made up my mind to further this cause, this fight against this insidious form of abuse in anyway possible on as many fronts as possible.
The alienation process isn't only about one disturbed parent. It isn't only about a programmed and manipulated child. Nor is it only about the ill-informed and mis-guided social worker, the under-experienced therapists, or our failed family law system. It isn't even about the extended family members or friends who “don’t want to get involved."
It is about all of the above.
It is only by addressing all of these things that we may begin to make a difference. As of right now I am committing to making a difference.
ALL OF THE ABOVE
No one, vindictive, malicious parent can completely alienate a child without the help of one or more of the above to validate or embolden the alienating parent; bolstering the alienator’s agenda either in words or actions, or God-forbid, making it "official" by reporting a distorted or inaccurate assessment on paper. No, one piece makes up the complete picture of the parental alienation puzzle.
This website, my goal in life, is to address parental alienation and all the pieces that contribute to the alienation puzzle. From the disturbed parent, and the process of recruiting unwitting co-alienators; to the mediators and judges who contribute and, eventually, solidify the alienation of a loving parent from their children.
In the process, I plan on sharing my personal story of parental alienation.
In my story you will find a well-documented case with over 2 years of documentation and material evidence where you will read, see, and hear the actual words of an alienating parent, recruited co-alienators.
But the most heart-wrenching evidence that I will share with you is the actual transformation of a once loving, respectful daughter’s natural love to that of the hatred, disrespect, and loathing that is the staple of a programmed child.
In a child’s voice you will hear--and I believe feel--the profound love and affection that comes from once having a strong and loving bond with her father. In a child’s un-natural voice you will then hear the programmed hate taught by a parent whose own issues keep her blindly unaware of the havoc that she is inflicting in her own children’s lives.
I will call her April.
I wish to make this comprehensive website a place where targeted parents, targeted children, as well as alienating parents can get some help and support.
But I also want it to be more than that. Much more.
What is happening to our family is horrific and I know this much is true: it doesn't end well for me. This rarely ends well for the loving parent. It doesn't end well for my supportive wife who has embraced her step-daughter as one of her own. It doesn't end well for our alienated daughter's 3 other daughters who miss their sister dearly, but rarely ask about her anymore. No. This doesn’t end well for our family.
But it ends tragically for our daughter. ~back to home page
My family and I have an incredible support group of friends and family. We have our faith. We have our sense of justice, insight, and a belief that all things, good or bad, happen for a reason. Most of all we have each other. We continue to be strong and we will be okay.
What is truly heartbreaking is what our alienated daughter is going through. Imagine having to live the rest of your life where you have to hate one of the two people that you are most innately and naturally wired to love unconditionally--a mother or a father. Now imagine that as a child you have been encouraged-- at the threat of losing the emotional affection of one parent-- to disparage, denigrate, and lie about the other parent. It's a horrific situation to have to be in. It reminds me of the decision that Meryl Streep's character had to make in Sophie's Choice.
In the mental health field it is what is referred to as a double bind; a no-win situation where you are damned if you do and damned if you don't. It is crazy-making situation in a literal and figurative sense.
When I think about our daughter, I have to stop at that point.. It breaks my heart to think about her tortured soul. Her heart desires to love both parents, but she isn't allowed to do so.
So, what do you do?
I want this website to be about taking action against all aspects of parental alienation. I told myself a while ago and have to remind myself often that I am not a victim. I am not a victim.
I have made up my mind to further this cause, this fight against this insidious form of abuse in anyway possible on as many fronts as possible.
The alienation process isn't only about one disturbed parent. It isn't only about a programmed and manipulated child. Nor is it only about the ill-informed and mis-guided social worker, the under-experienced therapists, or our failed family law system. It isn't even about the extended family members or friends who “don’t want to get involved."
It is about all of the above.
It is only by addressing all of these things that we may begin to make a difference. As of right now I am committing to making a difference.
ALL OF THE ABOVE
No one, vindictive, malicious parent can completely alienate a child without the help of one or more of the above to validate or embolden the alienating parent; bolstering the alienator’s agenda either in words or actions, or God-forbid, making it "official" by reporting a distorted or inaccurate assessment on paper. No, one piece makes up the complete picture of the parental alienation puzzle.
This website, my goal in life, is to address parental alienation and all the pieces that contribute to the alienation puzzle. From the disturbed parent, and the process of recruiting unwitting co-alienators; to the mediators and judges who contribute and, eventually, solidify the alienation of a loving parent from their children.
In the process, I plan on sharing my personal story of parental alienation.
In my story you will find a well-documented case with over 2 years of documentation and material evidence where you will read, see, and hear the actual words of an alienating parent, recruited co-alienators.
But the most heart-wrenching evidence that I will share with you is the actual transformation of a once loving, respectful daughter’s natural love to that of the hatred, disrespect, and loathing that is the staple of a programmed child.
In a child’s voice you will hear--and I believe feel--the profound love and affection that comes from once having a strong and loving bond with her father. In a child’s un-natural voice you will then hear the programmed hate taught by a parent whose own issues keep her blindly unaware of the havoc that she is inflicting in her own children’s lives.
I will call her April.
This was April's voice before the alienation:
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