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In Summary
Almost without exception, every holiday was a struggle when it came to sharing April, Christy had a hard time.
In October 2010. I began inquiring about obtaining a specific court order so that our visitation with April, as far as the holidays go, wouldn’t be at Christy’s whim.
In December 2010, Christy’s interference began worsening to the point that she kept April out of a gymnastics meet on December 18. The date coincided with the beginning of Christmas Break and our family was to pick up April for the first half of the break. We drove home stunned that Christy would have April miss an actual gymnastics meet (her Home meet) just to keep April from us.
In January, we find out from head coach that Christy had pulled April from gymnastics entirely. April returns to gymnastics shortly after that. After all she loves gymnastics. But throughout February Christy either keeps April from gymnastics or comes in at the tail end to scoop her up so that I can't bring her home with us like we had been doing for years.
I continue to drive the 2 hours every single weekend, sometimes twice a week to pick up April, however, for the next two months we are denied visitation.
Christy who had previously refused my idea of counseling takes April to a therapist. Right before the first session, Christy decides to allow April to visit. Just one of the many times that Christy demonstrates that she actually can encourage April to visit when she feels like it. We open Christmas presents with April on March 5, 2011 at our home. (Christmas in March)
I get a call from Shirley Stutson, April’s therapist, weeks later and I am asked to join in the therapy on April 1st 2011.
On April 1st my wife and I are on the way in to see the therapist, about three-quarters of the way when April and Christy call and text insisting that therapy is no longer necessary. They even go as far as calling the therapist and stating that I am not coming. (See texts) We come in to therapy and begin to clarify some misinformation that Christy and April had reported.
In April we serve Christy court papers asking for full custody of April. The day after Christy receives the papers Christy calls to tell me how this will negatively affect my relationship with April. “I will make sure it does,” are her exact words.
We see an increase in the alienating behavior, April is kept away from us that Saturday (we go to Knott's Berry Farm without her) and are denied yet another Easter with April.
In June the judge approves our request to get Dr. Amy Miller to look into what is going on in our situation. She had been highly recommended by some of my professors at Chapman University and a couple of therapist in the area.
Christy immediately attempts to get control of the situation by contacting Dr. Amy Miller ahead of the game (Even before the courts had a chance to send Dr. Miller the court minutes/orders) to get her story in and trying to re-interpret the judge’s orders. (See E-mail)
At first Christy does a good job at diverting from the issue at hand. I am flabbergasted at how easily she is able to do this, but I also know she has had years of practice at manipulating situations. Still, this is a seasoned and well-recommended psychologist. You would think that she would be familiar with parental alienation or at least in recognizing a personality disorder.
Eventually, we bring Dr. Amy Miller a folder full of Christy’s text messages and copies of Kaylee’s Facebook postings showing Kaylee and Christy’s roles in interfering with our relationships. (It is important to note that Kaylee was eventually kicked out of Christy's house, but has moved back in around the time that these issues all began again. This time she moved back in with a teen-aged mother named Erica Perez.)
Eventually, Dr. Miller began getting a clearer picture of what was going on. Christy began missing sessions. Progress was stalled.
However, because of pending court dates and Dr. Miller looking into our situation, Christy had become more co-operative as far as sharing and not undermining my role as a parent. (E-mail I sent to Dr. Amy Miller)
Towards the latter part of the year Christy begged that we not go to trial, blames April and Kaylee for the way things had progressed. Christy suggested I come up with a parenting plan. I did so. The only parts Christy had issue with was the driving and where it said that she was the primary custodial parent. This had always been an issue with Christy.
We agreed on the current (and I thought) very detailed court order on January 9th 2012. But I missed what should have been a warning sign; Christy had insisted that we not use Dr. Amy Miller, but instead continue to see Shirley Stutson.
A month later Christy begins with threats of going back to court and attempting to keep April from me. I was not as concerned with her threats. After all, we have a court order and Christy would not violate a court order.
So I thought.
Throughout the later part of 2011 and through June 2012, April’s behavior had dramatically improved as did our relationship. (See text, Audioand Voice-mails.
Throughout this time, Christy continued to have issues with me and perhaps always will. April, however, had been taken out of the middle. She was happy and doing wonderfully in every aspect of her life.
There were two exceptions. Christy's continued to have April lie to cover up her inadequacies as a parent and April has boy issues.
THe first issue was that while April continued to follow the examples of what our household's expectations which is honesty, accountability, respect...etc and doing an incredible job of rebuilding trust.
However, Christy is encouraging that April continue to be deceptive and lie by omission in certain instances. It further aggravates the situation when my doing the right thing and being a parent is later twisted in a way that places me in a bad light to April or a gullible mediator/therapist.
For example, my monitoring Facebook or her social media is seen as invasion of privacy, my taking a stance against her being in an abusive relationship is seen as controlling or hindering her sense of autonomy.
Or more specifically, like in the following two examples:
On March 14, I text CHristy letting her know that I am coming for April the next day. She texts me to have her home earlier than what the court order says. I have learned to pick my battles with Christy so the next day, I attempt to drop April off early at around 7 pm.
But, No one is home.
April and I decide to drive to Margaritas, a local restaurant to see if we can find anyone in her family. We notice April's brother Josh, 24, pulling in the parking spot 3 cars away. We wait in my car for Josh to walk by, but Josh doesn't get out of his car. Our view is blocked by a couple of cars, so April and I get out and walk to Josh's car. Josh is nervous because he is with his 16 year girlfriend. Half the community knows about Josh and his minor girlfriend, including myself, and frankly no one cares. I say hi Faith, to let him know that I know who she is and ask if its okay if I leave April with them. Before I leave April, she and I talk about Josh and Faith and how she has felt horrible about having to lie about that. April starts crying saying that she hopes that this will not set our relationship hard because she has worked so hard at rebuilding our relationship. I assure her that it won't. However, I am livid that Christy has placed April in an uncomfortable situation. I text Christy. (see Text)
In the texts, what happened is twisted and Christy claims that I interrogate April until she tells me what I want her to say. Christy makes sure that she shows up at the next therapy session to divert from the real issue which is that Josh is dating a minor and she has impressionable children living in the home. Not to mention it is morally reprehensible.
As is usually the pattern Christy will attempt to come into therapy to divert from the real issue. (Text and Audio of Christy showing up)
This is why I am concerned about how disturbed Christy is. Inside the therapist's office, Christy adamantly denies telling April to lie about Josh dating a minor. April had been asked to wait in the waiting room by Christy. But once we get right outside of the therapist's office, Christy admits lying, apologizes, but justifies it because at the time were going to court and didn't want it used against her. She then tells April that she was wrong and that she should never lie to her father or any adult. This was about 1 minute after she vehemently denied having ever encouraging April to lie. But I am a bit stunned. Did Christy just admit that she lied and apologize?
In this next example is why we are where we are now:
Christy has allowed April to have boyfriends since she was 10. I have always spoken out against it and the consequences that come with allowing it at such a young age and without the proper guidelines and boundaries.
Still, Christy has allowed it time and again and encouraged April to be deceitful about it especially where I was concerned.
It became a huge issue when April started dating John Bxxxx, a troubled boy and school bully who had been suspended 3 times and even Mike and Christy said was not allowed at their home. But then why allow him to date our daughter?
Things got so bad with this boy that another parent and I met with the superintendent and eventually the sheriff got involved. It was then that Mike and Christy came on board and agreed that perhaps April was not ready to date.
But April continued to date him behind our backs. There is some confusion as to if Christy knew about that relationship or not.
There is no confusion about the next boyfriend, Joby.
In April, all four parents addressed the boyfriend situation again. Everyone decided that April was to wait until she was emotionally ready to date and only with all 4 parents’ approval and with specific boundaries and guidelines. I felt it was great that all parents were on board.
In June 2012, while on our road trip April is doubled over sick at dinner. It turns out that there is nothing wrong as we had feared but she was merely upset because her boyfriend was playing head games with her.
April got in trouble due to her violation of a clear and set boundary. We dealt with the situation and agreed to move on and enjoy the rest of our vacation. We (Tammy, April, and I) decided April would have no phone and would not stay in Tennessee with her best friend as we had planned.
But it turns out that Christy not only knew about this boyfriend, but had encouraged April to lie to me about it. So we decided to allow April to stay in Tennessee and deal with the issue of Christy undermining my authority and encouraging our daughter to lie again.
When we notified Christy about what had happened she agreed that April is not ready for a relationship as we had established in April. But when Christy was asked numerous times if what April was saying is true and that she knew about Joby, Christy refused to answer. (See texts)
Instead Christy made a therapy appointment for a month later on July 20th for all the parents to meet. What Christy didn’t tell us is that she also made one for April on July 6th. April was supposed to be in Tennessee until a later date but Christy flew her in early to tell her story and “deal with her issues.”
When we met with our therapist on July 20th the only issue addressed was April’s claims that she was yelled at in New York City.
Unbelievable. My wife walked out in disgust and said she was sorry to me but refused to see a therapist who is only attributing to the problem.
That week, July 20-27, 2012, April came back to our home for the week.
We discussed the book The Four Agreements at our dinner table and how good things happen and there is peace both within your world and outside if you are impeccable with your word. April seemed to soak it in and even took some notes on her own. I printed up some notes from the internet as well. We felt that the opportunity was right talk about what had happened. April admitted that she had lied about Joby and that she had exaggerated about getting yelled at in New York. I asked April why she does that. Why does she lie to her mother about things like that? April says it’s because she can get away with it.
I called Christy and Mike. In my conversation I invited Christy and Mike to come have a sit down on Friday when they pick up April. I informed Christy that April had something to tell her. I assured Christy that it was a good thing, never-the-less, she was triggered and placed Mike on the phone.
Mike never showed up and Christy was triggered when she walked in our home.
April came clean. She was open and honest. She admitted that she exaggerated about New York because she wanted to keep seeing Joby. Earlier she had admitted to us that her mother knew and that it was her suggestion to not label it or tell me about it. But since Christy had walked in triggered and she would never have admitted it, we focused on April.
April agreed that she was okay with not dating until she was emotionally ready and could regain our trust. She promised to be impeccable with her word. I even gave Christy my copy of the book Four Agreements.
Christy didn’t seem to buy the fact that April was ready to move on without Joby. She kept asking are you sure April? Are you sure you’re going to be okay with it?
I sat there wondering if Christy was trying to change April’s mind. What the hell was she doing?
Then Christy said, “Okay April, but I don’t want you changing your mind and crying to me all the way home.”
It turns out, I found out later, April did just that. She cried to her mother all the way home. (Audio)
April wants to have a boyfriend so bad and she knows that Christy will allow it. Since I am being a parent she claims that she is afraid of me, that I lecture her, that she is afraid of me, that I harass her in the shower, that I walk in on her when she is changing...she says whatever she needs to say because it fulfills both her desire to have a boyfriend and pleases her mother.
On August 1, 2012, four days after Christy picked up April and we talked about the Four Agreements, Christy wrote her declaration for an Ex Parte to remove my rights as a father.
The judge denied the request and set a hearing date. But then Commissioner Daniel added something that will forever haunt me and confound me; she said no law enforcement officer is going to force a 13 year old to go on a visit with a parent.
Three days later, we were to do an exchange with Christy at gymnastics like we have done for 6 years. When I asked Christy for April’s bags like I have done for six years, she simply said, “I don’t know Joe. Talk to April.” See video.
April has been put in the middle of EVERY exchange since which includes 9 Sheriff Incident reports.
I continued to drive 2 hours twice a week to attempt to see April; on Thursdays for a day visit and then again on Friday to pick her up for the weekend. Most of the time she is kept from me. She is never allowed a full weekend visit or God-forbid an extended holiday/school break visit. Whenever I am able see her we have a good time. It takes about 20 minutes before she remembers that I am a loving father and that we always have fun together.
But then a funny thing happens when I am driving her home. She gets sullen, quiet and contemplative. I try to keep the mood upbeat by talking about our time together, pleasant memories or small talk..
An interesting thing happened once when I dropped April off I waited parked out in front of her house until she was inside like I always do, she walked up and didn’t turn around and wave or smile as she always had. Instead she opened the door to her house and let out a loud, extended UUUGGH!
It hurt me for a while. I was about halfway home when I allowed myself to realized that we really did have a good time and that sound April made when she walked in the door was for the people in that house to hear and had nothing to do with me and the good time we had just had.
On October 29, 2012 we had our mediation. I sat in silence while Christy went first telling her distorted version of events. It's almost impressive how effortlessly she lies but equally disturbing. I don't say a word while she goes on; the mediator compliments me and acknowledges that it must have been difficult to sit back and just listen. I was impressed that the mediator asks some good questions and Christy stumbled and was unable to come up with some good answers. I remember thinking that my nightmare was almost over.
Susan Bailes report showed me that I was wrong. She didn't get it. Either that or she believed what April had to say and really doesn't realize how parental alienation works.
It’s April 1, 2013. I have had all my parental rights removed. I see April for 50 minutes every other week. She can’t name any pleasant memories she has had with me. She doesn’t hug me or my wife. She doesn’t say that she loves me. She is going back and forth between boys and schools. My wife and I can only stand by and watch her life spiraling out of control.
And I am wondering if anyone is going to do anything about it?
Almost without exception, every holiday was a struggle when it came to sharing April, Christy had a hard time.
In October 2010. I began inquiring about obtaining a specific court order so that our visitation with April, as far as the holidays go, wouldn’t be at Christy’s whim.
In December 2010, Christy’s interference began worsening to the point that she kept April out of a gymnastics meet on December 18. The date coincided with the beginning of Christmas Break and our family was to pick up April for the first half of the break. We drove home stunned that Christy would have April miss an actual gymnastics meet (her Home meet) just to keep April from us.
In January, we find out from head coach that Christy had pulled April from gymnastics entirely. April returns to gymnastics shortly after that. After all she loves gymnastics. But throughout February Christy either keeps April from gymnastics or comes in at the tail end to scoop her up so that I can't bring her home with us like we had been doing for years.
I continue to drive the 2 hours every single weekend, sometimes twice a week to pick up April, however, for the next two months we are denied visitation.
Christy who had previously refused my idea of counseling takes April to a therapist. Right before the first session, Christy decides to allow April to visit. Just one of the many times that Christy demonstrates that she actually can encourage April to visit when she feels like it. We open Christmas presents with April on March 5, 2011 at our home. (Christmas in March)
I get a call from Shirley Stutson, April’s therapist, weeks later and I am asked to join in the therapy on April 1st 2011.
On April 1st my wife and I are on the way in to see the therapist, about three-quarters of the way when April and Christy call and text insisting that therapy is no longer necessary. They even go as far as calling the therapist and stating that I am not coming. (See texts) We come in to therapy and begin to clarify some misinformation that Christy and April had reported.
In April we serve Christy court papers asking for full custody of April. The day after Christy receives the papers Christy calls to tell me how this will negatively affect my relationship with April. “I will make sure it does,” are her exact words.
We see an increase in the alienating behavior, April is kept away from us that Saturday (we go to Knott's Berry Farm without her) and are denied yet another Easter with April.
In June the judge approves our request to get Dr. Amy Miller to look into what is going on in our situation. She had been highly recommended by some of my professors at Chapman University and a couple of therapist in the area.
Christy immediately attempts to get control of the situation by contacting Dr. Amy Miller ahead of the game (Even before the courts had a chance to send Dr. Miller the court minutes/orders) to get her story in and trying to re-interpret the judge’s orders. (See E-mail)
At first Christy does a good job at diverting from the issue at hand. I am flabbergasted at how easily she is able to do this, but I also know she has had years of practice at manipulating situations. Still, this is a seasoned and well-recommended psychologist. You would think that she would be familiar with parental alienation or at least in recognizing a personality disorder.
Eventually, we bring Dr. Amy Miller a folder full of Christy’s text messages and copies of Kaylee’s Facebook postings showing Kaylee and Christy’s roles in interfering with our relationships. (It is important to note that Kaylee was eventually kicked out of Christy's house, but has moved back in around the time that these issues all began again. This time she moved back in with a teen-aged mother named Erica Perez.)
Eventually, Dr. Miller began getting a clearer picture of what was going on. Christy began missing sessions. Progress was stalled.
However, because of pending court dates and Dr. Miller looking into our situation, Christy had become more co-operative as far as sharing and not undermining my role as a parent. (E-mail I sent to Dr. Amy Miller)
Towards the latter part of the year Christy begged that we not go to trial, blames April and Kaylee for the way things had progressed. Christy suggested I come up with a parenting plan. I did so. The only parts Christy had issue with was the driving and where it said that she was the primary custodial parent. This had always been an issue with Christy.
We agreed on the current (and I thought) very detailed court order on January 9th 2012. But I missed what should have been a warning sign; Christy had insisted that we not use Dr. Amy Miller, but instead continue to see Shirley Stutson.
A month later Christy begins with threats of going back to court and attempting to keep April from me. I was not as concerned with her threats. After all, we have a court order and Christy would not violate a court order.
So I thought.
Throughout the later part of 2011 and through June 2012, April’s behavior had dramatically improved as did our relationship. (See text, Audioand Voice-mails.
Throughout this time, Christy continued to have issues with me and perhaps always will. April, however, had been taken out of the middle. She was happy and doing wonderfully in every aspect of her life.
There were two exceptions. Christy's continued to have April lie to cover up her inadequacies as a parent and April has boy issues.
THe first issue was that while April continued to follow the examples of what our household's expectations which is honesty, accountability, respect...etc and doing an incredible job of rebuilding trust.
However, Christy is encouraging that April continue to be deceptive and lie by omission in certain instances. It further aggravates the situation when my doing the right thing and being a parent is later twisted in a way that places me in a bad light to April or a gullible mediator/therapist.
For example, my monitoring Facebook or her social media is seen as invasion of privacy, my taking a stance against her being in an abusive relationship is seen as controlling or hindering her sense of autonomy.
Or more specifically, like in the following two examples:
On March 14, I text CHristy letting her know that I am coming for April the next day. She texts me to have her home earlier than what the court order says. I have learned to pick my battles with Christy so the next day, I attempt to drop April off early at around 7 pm.
But, No one is home.
April and I decide to drive to Margaritas, a local restaurant to see if we can find anyone in her family. We notice April's brother Josh, 24, pulling in the parking spot 3 cars away. We wait in my car for Josh to walk by, but Josh doesn't get out of his car. Our view is blocked by a couple of cars, so April and I get out and walk to Josh's car. Josh is nervous because he is with his 16 year girlfriend. Half the community knows about Josh and his minor girlfriend, including myself, and frankly no one cares. I say hi Faith, to let him know that I know who she is and ask if its okay if I leave April with them. Before I leave April, she and I talk about Josh and Faith and how she has felt horrible about having to lie about that. April starts crying saying that she hopes that this will not set our relationship hard because she has worked so hard at rebuilding our relationship. I assure her that it won't. However, I am livid that Christy has placed April in an uncomfortable situation. I text Christy. (see Text)
In the texts, what happened is twisted and Christy claims that I interrogate April until she tells me what I want her to say. Christy makes sure that she shows up at the next therapy session to divert from the real issue which is that Josh is dating a minor and she has impressionable children living in the home. Not to mention it is morally reprehensible.
As is usually the pattern Christy will attempt to come into therapy to divert from the real issue. (Text and Audio of Christy showing up)
This is why I am concerned about how disturbed Christy is. Inside the therapist's office, Christy adamantly denies telling April to lie about Josh dating a minor. April had been asked to wait in the waiting room by Christy. But once we get right outside of the therapist's office, Christy admits lying, apologizes, but justifies it because at the time were going to court and didn't want it used against her. She then tells April that she was wrong and that she should never lie to her father or any adult. This was about 1 minute after she vehemently denied having ever encouraging April to lie. But I am a bit stunned. Did Christy just admit that she lied and apologize?
In this next example is why we are where we are now:
Christy has allowed April to have boyfriends since she was 10. I have always spoken out against it and the consequences that come with allowing it at such a young age and without the proper guidelines and boundaries.
Still, Christy has allowed it time and again and encouraged April to be deceitful about it especially where I was concerned.
It became a huge issue when April started dating John Bxxxx, a troubled boy and school bully who had been suspended 3 times and even Mike and Christy said was not allowed at their home. But then why allow him to date our daughter?
Things got so bad with this boy that another parent and I met with the superintendent and eventually the sheriff got involved. It was then that Mike and Christy came on board and agreed that perhaps April was not ready to date.
But April continued to date him behind our backs. There is some confusion as to if Christy knew about that relationship or not.
There is no confusion about the next boyfriend, Joby.
In April, all four parents addressed the boyfriend situation again. Everyone decided that April was to wait until she was emotionally ready to date and only with all 4 parents’ approval and with specific boundaries and guidelines. I felt it was great that all parents were on board.
In June 2012, while on our road trip April is doubled over sick at dinner. It turns out that there is nothing wrong as we had feared but she was merely upset because her boyfriend was playing head games with her.
April got in trouble due to her violation of a clear and set boundary. We dealt with the situation and agreed to move on and enjoy the rest of our vacation. We (Tammy, April, and I) decided April would have no phone and would not stay in Tennessee with her best friend as we had planned.
But it turns out that Christy not only knew about this boyfriend, but had encouraged April to lie to me about it. So we decided to allow April to stay in Tennessee and deal with the issue of Christy undermining my authority and encouraging our daughter to lie again.
When we notified Christy about what had happened she agreed that April is not ready for a relationship as we had established in April. But when Christy was asked numerous times if what April was saying is true and that she knew about Joby, Christy refused to answer. (See texts)
Instead Christy made a therapy appointment for a month later on July 20th for all the parents to meet. What Christy didn’t tell us is that she also made one for April on July 6th. April was supposed to be in Tennessee until a later date but Christy flew her in early to tell her story and “deal with her issues.”
When we met with our therapist on July 20th the only issue addressed was April’s claims that she was yelled at in New York City.
Unbelievable. My wife walked out in disgust and said she was sorry to me but refused to see a therapist who is only attributing to the problem.
That week, July 20-27, 2012, April came back to our home for the week.
We discussed the book The Four Agreements at our dinner table and how good things happen and there is peace both within your world and outside if you are impeccable with your word. April seemed to soak it in and even took some notes on her own. I printed up some notes from the internet as well. We felt that the opportunity was right talk about what had happened. April admitted that she had lied about Joby and that she had exaggerated about getting yelled at in New York. I asked April why she does that. Why does she lie to her mother about things like that? April says it’s because she can get away with it.
I called Christy and Mike. In my conversation I invited Christy and Mike to come have a sit down on Friday when they pick up April. I informed Christy that April had something to tell her. I assured Christy that it was a good thing, never-the-less, she was triggered and placed Mike on the phone.
Mike never showed up and Christy was triggered when she walked in our home.
April came clean. She was open and honest. She admitted that she exaggerated about New York because she wanted to keep seeing Joby. Earlier she had admitted to us that her mother knew and that it was her suggestion to not label it or tell me about it. But since Christy had walked in triggered and she would never have admitted it, we focused on April.
April agreed that she was okay with not dating until she was emotionally ready and could regain our trust. She promised to be impeccable with her word. I even gave Christy my copy of the book Four Agreements.
Christy didn’t seem to buy the fact that April was ready to move on without Joby. She kept asking are you sure April? Are you sure you’re going to be okay with it?
I sat there wondering if Christy was trying to change April’s mind. What the hell was she doing?
Then Christy said, “Okay April, but I don’t want you changing your mind and crying to me all the way home.”
It turns out, I found out later, April did just that. She cried to her mother all the way home. (Audio)
April wants to have a boyfriend so bad and she knows that Christy will allow it. Since I am being a parent she claims that she is afraid of me, that I lecture her, that she is afraid of me, that I harass her in the shower, that I walk in on her when she is changing...she says whatever she needs to say because it fulfills both her desire to have a boyfriend and pleases her mother.
On August 1, 2012, four days after Christy picked up April and we talked about the Four Agreements, Christy wrote her declaration for an Ex Parte to remove my rights as a father.
The judge denied the request and set a hearing date. But then Commissioner Daniel added something that will forever haunt me and confound me; she said no law enforcement officer is going to force a 13 year old to go on a visit with a parent.
Three days later, we were to do an exchange with Christy at gymnastics like we have done for 6 years. When I asked Christy for April’s bags like I have done for six years, she simply said, “I don’t know Joe. Talk to April.” See video.
April has been put in the middle of EVERY exchange since which includes 9 Sheriff Incident reports.
I continued to drive 2 hours twice a week to attempt to see April; on Thursdays for a day visit and then again on Friday to pick her up for the weekend. Most of the time she is kept from me. She is never allowed a full weekend visit or God-forbid an extended holiday/school break visit. Whenever I am able see her we have a good time. It takes about 20 minutes before she remembers that I am a loving father and that we always have fun together.
But then a funny thing happens when I am driving her home. She gets sullen, quiet and contemplative. I try to keep the mood upbeat by talking about our time together, pleasant memories or small talk..
An interesting thing happened once when I dropped April off I waited parked out in front of her house until she was inside like I always do, she walked up and didn’t turn around and wave or smile as she always had. Instead she opened the door to her house and let out a loud, extended UUUGGH!
It hurt me for a while. I was about halfway home when I allowed myself to realized that we really did have a good time and that sound April made when she walked in the door was for the people in that house to hear and had nothing to do with me and the good time we had just had.
On October 29, 2012 we had our mediation. I sat in silence while Christy went first telling her distorted version of events. It's almost impressive how effortlessly she lies but equally disturbing. I don't say a word while she goes on; the mediator compliments me and acknowledges that it must have been difficult to sit back and just listen. I was impressed that the mediator asks some good questions and Christy stumbled and was unable to come up with some good answers. I remember thinking that my nightmare was almost over.
Susan Bailes report showed me that I was wrong. She didn't get it. Either that or she believed what April had to say and really doesn't realize how parental alienation works.
It’s April 1, 2013. I have had all my parental rights removed. I see April for 50 minutes every other week. She can’t name any pleasant memories she has had with me. She doesn’t hug me or my wife. She doesn’t say that she loves me. She is going back and forth between boys and schools. My wife and I can only stand by and watch her life spiraling out of control.
And I am wondering if anyone is going to do anything about it?