"The Half a Ring" Game
It is typical of the alienating parent (AP) to claim that it is the targeted parent (TP) who does not care about their child enough to maintain contact. They will claim that the it is the targeted parent that does not call or show up at the exchange location to pick up their child.
Another ruse is to make last minute changes to the court order exchange locations, but failing to inform the targeted parent of the changes or informing the TP at the last possible minute when often it is too late for the targeted parent to make it to the new location at the new time. As far as communications go, the targeted parent may refuse to let the targeted parent speak with the child by claiming that the child is not around, busy or offer to relay a message to the child which the child never gets. The alienating parent can then claim that the targeted parent doesn't even care enough to call. Or, like in my case, the Christy continually claims that Megan is not around but tells me that she will let her know that I called. Days can sometimes go by and then I have to call or text again. I eventually have to insist and remind Christy that it is a clear violation of our court order to not allow me to communicate with our daughter. This is the deplorable behavior that I have actually grown accustomed to from Christy to the point where it is predictable. I often call with little or no expectation that I will be allowed to speak to our daughter. But still, I call. On a few occasions, Christy will have Megan call me back. I can only assume that it is Megan because it is from Christy's cell phone. Christy will let my cell ring for a split second or half a ring and abruptly hang up. She will then immediately text me saying that Megan has tried to call me but I am the one who is avoiding her calls. She then accuses me of ignoring our daughter. Christy also accuses me of not calling Megan, not really wanting to see Megan, not being at the pick up points, and otherwise trying to not see her or avoid communicating with her. One of the reasons I began videotaping pick ups (or attempted pick ups) is Christy blatantly claiming that I am not at her house when I am parked out front. Besides the fact that Christy is interfering in this manner, she also led me to believe that Meganstill did not have a cell phone. Christy later e-mails me stating that she sent me Megan's number a month before. If so why doesn't she just text me back to call Megan on her cell. Instead of saying that she will let her know I called? |
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~Christy refuses at first to place Megan on the phone even though she is with her. She very often attempts to put me off by stating that she will let Megan know that I called. Often I don't hear back from anyone. ~Christy eventually calls but only lets phone ring for half a ring, then sends a text stating that Megan had tried calling but I wasn't answering her calls. |
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Joe (Dad) <Joe (Dad)> Wed, Aug 8, 2012 at 10:00 PM
To: Christy (mom) Can i talk to our daughter please. When i call the house phone someone picks up and sets phone down and no one ever comes to phone. ________________________________________ Christy (mom) Wed, Aug 8, 2012 at 10:06 PM To: Joe (Dad) We r out of town... I will let her know you called ________________________________________ Joe (Dad) <Joe (Dad)> Wed, Aug 8, 2012 at 10:08 PM To: Christy (mom) Thats what you said 4 days ago...and she hasnlt called is she with you...i would like to talk with her...please. ________________________________________ Christy (mom) Wed, Aug 8, 2012 at 10:10 PM To: Joe (Dad) I have been telling her every day joe... I can let her know again. She is with me here in vegas. ________________________________________ Joe (Dad) <Joe (Dad)> Wed, Aug 8, 2012 at 10:17 PM To: Christy (mom) Ok, then put her on the phone. Court order says that we are to "encourage communication with other parent" ..just reminding you. ________________________________________ Christy (mom) Wed, Aug 8, 2012 at 10:23 PM To: Joe (Dad) I do encouage did u read my text??? ________________________________________ Joe (Dad) <Joe (Dad)> Wed, Aug 8, 2012 at 10:27 PM To: Christy (mom) Doing and saying are two different things. At some point you have to allow her to talk with her father. WWJD? ________________________________________ Christy (mom) Wed, Aug 8, 2012 at 10:28 PM To: Joe (Dad) She just tried calling... Your not answering ________________________________________ Christy (mom) Wed, Aug 8, 2012 at 10:31 PM To: Joe (Dad) Jesus would say judge not lest ye be judged ________________________________________ Christy (mom) Wed, Aug 8, 2012 at 10:36 PM To: Joe (Dad) She just tried calling your not answering |
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This sort of thing happens all the time. Sometimes its Kaylee or Erica burping or annoying laughter, or I am asked who is this and what relation do I have to April, When I say father, they will burst out in laughter,
Kaylee is April's 20 year old sister. Erica is a teen mother who also lives in the house with Megan. Typical response from Christy and Mike, saying that they will relay the message. Again, at this time, they have kept the fact away from me that she has a cell phone. . Alienators always place the blame on someone else. If it was the other way around, I would dial the number for our daughter and then hand her the phone and say, here, talk to your mother. This is kinda important. Mike and Christy have always looked up to me as a person and a father. They would say that when they had a parenting issue they would turn to each other and say, What Would Joe Do. We have come a long way from what would Joe do. THIS IS WHEN MY PHONE RINGS FOR HALF A RING. Immediately after, I get this text message. This stuff that I have to deal with. |
