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Mission Statement 

To say that we wish to completely abolish Parental Alienation would be to set up ourselves for failure. It is so entrenched in our family law system and how it works that, like racism, it will never be fully eradicated from our society. We will, however, work endlessly to bring attention and more awareness to this hideous form of abuse. An abuse that is not only detrimental to children here and now but it effects future generations as well.
Parents going through a divorce or separation will always harbor some animosity towards the other parent and at times either through ignorance or simply in the heat of the moment utter some less than flattering statement about their child's other parent. At times, unfortunately  these verbal attacks may even be made in the presence of their children. 
But that in and of itself is not parental alienation. 
The insightful, caring parent who says something mean about the other parent usually realizes that its not a good idea and will feel remorseful and may even apologize to the child about what was said. And that parent should be forgiven for what could be considered an understandable response to a parent whose life is in a state of turmoil due to divorce. People make mistakes. A recent study has shown that in most divorce cases there is some alienating behavior on the part of both parents.  
Parental Alienation is more than the occasional blurted word of disparagement. It is the systematic process of one disturbed parent who is determined to ruin the relationship of the other parent with their child. The severe alienator will pull no stops until the other parent has been annihilated from their child's life. He/she will resort to the most heinous of tactics including accusing a loving parent of abusing that child. 
April25.org is an action oriented website that will promote and advocate towards more awareness and the recognition of this type behavior of the most heinous type of child abuse: Parental Alienation

The first  things that I wish to accomplish: 

  1. Letters on this site that you can copy/download/use as a template to write your local representatives, courts, news sources. (Click Here) recently, Parental Alienation has been making the news with people like Alec Baldwin, Kelly Rutherford, Dwayne Wade and Halley Berry the more attention. My goal is to get California to join the 19 other states that have so far proclaimed April 25 Parental Alienation Day. 
  2. Create a master list of alienated parents, children, and/or relatives who have been exposed to this form of child abuse who wish to get involved and take some sort of action to make progress towards our goals. I see a great deal of groups some with larger number of members than others. This is a great start. but I believe that working together and having one way to communicating and gather signatures and get others to actively participate, join or attend campaigns, and voice their outrage.
  3. Support those who have gone through this ordeal. It doesn't always end well but there are ways to cope. One of them is to realize that you are not alone. 
  4. I wish to shine a bright light on proverbial Elephant in the Room. The mental health component that so often plays a role in the alienation process. The type of parent who does this to their own child is clearly unstable and in need of some therapeutic help. There is something wrong with them. Why else would they create this kind of havoc in other people's lives, not to mention the devastating consequences of the emotional and psychological damage they are doing to their own children? The topic of mental health is a hot topic right now all across the country with the recent shootings in Newtown, Connecticut as it should be. It is a gun control issue and a mental health issue. The mentally ill who abuse and hurt our children, whether its one child or 26, needs to be addressed. What type of person hurts a child? The answer is obvious: a mentally unstable one. A bright light needs to shine on the role that mental illness plays in severe alienating behavior. 

Awareness

Bring awareness to:

~Courts
~Mental Health Field
~Law Enforcement
~Schools

Advocacy

Promote and encourage advocacy:

~Join websites, groups or organizations that promote an end to parental alienation and encourage shared parenting
~Post support or LIKE on Facebook/Twitter
~The advocacy to get all levels of government to official proclaim April 25 as "Parental Alienation Awareness Day."

Action

Take some sort of action:

Write a letter
Buy Merchandise
Donate time or money
Occupy/Attend meetings, hearings, courts.
Sign Petitions
Sign. Like.  Support.                         Take Action Now!                         Sign. Like. Support.
~Sample Letter legislature

~Sample Letter Senator

~Sample Letter Judge

~Letter for Mental Health Professionals

~Letter to mediators