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A child does not belong to any one parent. children are not a possessions that should be fought over, like money or property. A child is a gift not only to both parents but to the world.
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A letter to my mom/dad...
If you encourage and allow me to have a relationship with my father/mother, I promise you that I will have a much better chance of becoming a well-adjusted and healthy young adult. All the common sense and the studies in the world show this to be a fact. Please Google it for me.
Besides the fact that I am one half of each of you, there are plenty more reasons that I need my father/mother in my life. Here are just some of them...
Children who are allowed to love both parents:
Wouldn’t you want all these things for me?
If you allow me to have a loving relationship with my father I promise to always love you both. That doesn’t mean that I will love you any less. It doesn’t mean that you are any less of a parent or important to me. It doesn’t mean that one of you “wins” and the other one losses. It means we all win. Especially me.
It will also mean this to me, that you loved me enough to let whatever insecurities, fears, issues, pride, or pain that you felt go so that I can have the best life possible.
Please, let me love my dad/mom. I have plenty of love for the both of you.
Dear Mom and Dad,
I’m just a kid, so please…
1. Do not talk badly about my other parent. (This makes me feel torn apart! It also makes me feel bad about myself.)
2. Do not talk about my other parent’s friends or relatives. (Let me care for someone even if you don’t.)
3. Do not talk about the divorce or other grown-up stuff. (This makes me feel sick. Please leave me out of it.)
4. Do not talk about child support. (This makes me feel guilty or like I’m a possession instead of your kid.)
5. Do not make me feel bad when I enjoy time with my other parent. (This makes me afraid to tell you things.)
6. Do not block my visits or prevent me from speaking to my other parent on the phone. (This makes me very upset.)
7. Do not interrupt my time with my other parent by calling too much or by planning my activities during our time together.
8. Do not argue in front of me or on the phone when I can hear you. (This turns my stomach inside out!)
9. Do not ask me to spy for you when I’m at my other parent’s home. (This makes me feel disloyal and dishonest.)
10. Do not ask me to keep secrets from my other parent. (Secrets make me feel anxious.)
11. Do not ask me questions about my other parent’s life. (This makes me uncomfortable. Just let me tell you.)
12. Do not give me verbal messages to deliver to my other parent. (I end up feeling anxious about their reaction.
Please call them, leave them a message at work or put a note in the mail.)
13. Do not send written messages with me or place them in my bag. (This also makes me uncomfortable.)
14. Do not blame my other parent for the divorce or for things that go wrong in your life. (This really feels terrible! I end up wanting to defend them from your attack. Sometimes it makes me feel sorry for you and want to protect you. I just want to be a kid, so please, please…stop putting me in the middle!)
15. Do not treat me like an adult. (It causes way too much stress for me.) Please find a friend or therapist to talk with.
16. Do not ignore my other parent or sit on opposite sides of the room during my school or sports activities. (This makes me feel sad and embarrassed. Please act like parents and be friendly, even if it is just for me.)
17. Do let me take items to my other home as long as I can carry them back and forth. (Otherwise it feels like you are treating me like a possession.)
18. Do not use guilt to pressure me to love you more and do not ask me where I want to live.
19. Do realize that I have two homes, not just one. (It doesn’t matter how much time I spend there.) I’d also really appreciate it if you would let my other parent come into our house every now and then, because it’s my home too!
20. Do let me love both of you and see each of you as much as possible!
Your loving child
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