The Telling Genogram (see Genogram below)
Guess how many of the children enmeshed in this mess are healthy, stable, happy, and well-adjusted?
Guess how many of the children enmeshed in this mess are healthy, stable, happy, and well-adjusted?
A GENOGRAM (also known as a McGoldrick-Gerson study or a Lapidus Schematic) is a pictorial display of a person's family relationships and medical history. It goes beyond a traditional family tree by allowing the user to visualize hereditary patterns and psychological factors that punctuate relationships. It can be used to identify repetitive patterns of behavior and to recognize hereditary tendencies. ~Wikipedia
In this case, a Genogram of Christy's family is very revealing.
Beginning with the fact that Christy never had a relationship with her father. That is to say, her biological father; Christy is allowed to have a loving relationship with her mother's current husband. (One thing that is prevalent in alienating families is that the alienator seems to have a hard time being able to facilitate a loving relationship between their child and the targeted, biological parent, while having no trouble what-so-ever encouraging that their child have a loving relationship with the new man/woman in their life.) Below you will also see that Christy's sister Michelle Edmisten Tacoronte, also has similar relationship patterns not only with her father but with the father of her children. All three fathers of her children.
INterestingly, their mother also shares the same patterns.
All three women keep the last names of their children's fathers even though they were never married or were separated at the time of the births. Nothing wrong with that per se but, I know that in Christy's case at least, the reason was that in her eyes it made it easier to collect child support.
All these women allegedly fought hard using our court systems to get the most child support while attempting to limit the time with the children's fathers.
How many of these fathers do you think got anything close to 50-50 custody?
A couple of other questions arise:
What do you think the odds are that Nancy, Christy and Michelle's mother, had limited contact with her own father as well?
How do you think all the children in this web of alienation are faring?
How will they handle potential conflicts with their former significant others in the future?
How ill they handle the sharing of their children?
Of course the grandmother, the mother of all the alienators completely supports the cutting out of all fathers in her daughters' lives. This is typical.
But the most disturbing thing about this dysfunctional family is that these patterns continue to be handed down.
Kaylee, Christy's 21 year old daughter is the epitome of her mother--and then some. She has been described as Christy on steroids. Where Christy at least tries to keep things behind closed doors, Kaylee is out in the open, in your face, yes I am alienating you from your daughter type alienator.
(See Psychologist Report and also listen to Christy admit that Kaylee is alienating me from our daughter. LISTEN BELOW)
I am most concerned with how this is affecting our daughter and how Christy psychopathology is being passed down to our daughter.
Beginning with the fact that Christy never had a relationship with her father. That is to say, her biological father; Christy is allowed to have a loving relationship with her mother's current husband. (One thing that is prevalent in alienating families is that the alienator seems to have a hard time being able to facilitate a loving relationship between their child and the targeted, biological parent, while having no trouble what-so-ever encouraging that their child have a loving relationship with the new man/woman in their life.) Below you will also see that Christy's sister Michelle Edmisten Tacoronte, also has similar relationship patterns not only with her father but with the father of her children. All three fathers of her children.
INterestingly, their mother also shares the same patterns.
All three women keep the last names of their children's fathers even though they were never married or were separated at the time of the births. Nothing wrong with that per se but, I know that in Christy's case at least, the reason was that in her eyes it made it easier to collect child support.
All these women allegedly fought hard using our court systems to get the most child support while attempting to limit the time with the children's fathers.
How many of these fathers do you think got anything close to 50-50 custody?
A couple of other questions arise:
What do you think the odds are that Nancy, Christy and Michelle's mother, had limited contact with her own father as well?
How do you think all the children in this web of alienation are faring?
How will they handle potential conflicts with their former significant others in the future?
How ill they handle the sharing of their children?
Of course the grandmother, the mother of all the alienators completely supports the cutting out of all fathers in her daughters' lives. This is typical.
But the most disturbing thing about this dysfunctional family is that these patterns continue to be handed down.
Kaylee, Christy's 21 year old daughter is the epitome of her mother--and then some. She has been described as Christy on steroids. Where Christy at least tries to keep things behind closed doors, Kaylee is out in the open, in your face, yes I am alienating you from your daughter type alienator.
(See Psychologist Report and also listen to Christy admit that Kaylee is alienating me from our daughter. LISTEN BELOW)
I am most concerned with how this is affecting our daughter and how Christy psychopathology is being passed down to our daughter.
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Christy (McAlister) Garrison:
My ex-wife, April's (Megan's) mother. She has 3 different children from 3 different men. All the men in Christy's life, according to Christy, are abusive towards her. All the fathers of her children have had limited contact with their children to their own detriment. All Christy's children are not coping well and have issues that are concerning. My concern is that our daughter is stuck in a highly dysfunctional household without access to a stable, loving father, a loving step-mother and her 5, 8, and 10 year old sisters. |
THE FATHERS TO CHRISTY'S CHILDREN
Limited to no contact. |
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Michelle Edmisten Tacoronte: Christy's sister
Christy's sister from the same mother but a different father. She has 3 different children from 3 different men as well. Two of the fathers have limited (one may have none) access to their children. According to Michelle and her boys their fathers are all abusive. Michelle also has limited to no access to her own father and her children could use their father in their lives about now. |
THE FATHERS TO MICHELLE'S CHILDREN
Limited to no contact. |
Limited to no contact. |
Of course...they are still married. |
Only picture Available
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Nancy Snyder:
Christy, Michelle, and Mikey McAlister's mother All three of her children had limited to no access to their father. Unfortunately, all three children are dealing with the ramifications of this. The patterns continue to be passed down. |
THE FATHERS TO NANCY'S CHILDREN
Christy's father not a part of her life. |
Mikey's father not a part of his life |
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"SAMPLE" GENOGRAM of what an maternally-based Parental Alienation family may look like
(It could just as easily be paternal-based alienation)
She is married to a fourth man, Michael Garrison. They have no biological children together but Michael does have 2 other children from his previous marriage to Sherri Glendenning (Scroggins)
Purple text is alienating parents lineage
(It could just as easily be paternal-based alienation)
She is married to a fourth man, Michael Garrison. They have no biological children together but Michael does have 2 other children from his previous marriage to Sherri Glendenning (Scroggins)
Purple text is alienating parents lineage
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Grandmother:
Example: The grandmother (mother of alienating parent) may have a history of having children then alienating children from their fathers when separated from that particular parent. Sometimes multiple children from multiple fathers. In this case there are two father. All of the fathers are alienated for one reason or another but predominantly the claims are that the father was abusive towards her and/or her children or somehow didn't care enough for them to stick around. The last man in the grandmother's life is usually the only "father" left and what is interesting is how the admirably the Alienating Parent (AP) is able to encourage her children to love and to have a loving relationship with the current man in her life while at the same time claiming that they have a hard time when it comes to facilitating a relationship with the targeted parent.
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The alienation continues on down through generations. Any children that the alienating parent has will then be alienated from their father. These children will also attempt to keep their children from the other parent should they divorce and usually the alienating parent and grandparent will also encourage and help in the alienation process.
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