April25.org: The Elephant in The Room
There are a number of articles that identify the type of parent who would perpetrate this type of abuse on their own child. Most have made a connection between the parent who do this and various types of behavioral disorders. I will use this page to post articles, links and miscellaneous findings regarding personality disorders and Parental Alienation
~Joe R Barrow, MFTt
~Joe R Barrow, MFTt
Borderline Personality Disorder and Parental Alienation Correlation
People that have no compunction about using their kids to hurt their exes seem to fit the profile of the emotionally abusive Cluster B personality disorders (Borderline Personality Disorder,Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Antisocial Personality Disorder). These individuals play the professional victim as they emotionally bully anyone who confronts, challenges, or criticizes them. They don’t recognize appropriate boundaries, won’t accept personal responsibility for their actions—in fact, they blame you for the horrible things they do and always have an excuse to justify their indefensible behaviors.
If your ex is actively or passively alienating your child(ren)’s normal affection toward you, he or she was probably emotionally abusive while you were together. Parental alienation is her or his way of continuing to abuse and hurt you via remote access. Generally, most bullies don’t see themselves as such. If you confront your ex about this behavior, they’ll deny it and blame you for your deteriorating relationship with your child(ren), even as you make every effort to be a present and involved parent. There is some research on correlation between borderlines and parental alienation. In my case, the issue seems to point to a mental health one. This part should be obvious--who else would do this to their own child?
On this page you will find links to information on articles, websites, and research studies dealing with personality disorders as well as the connection between borderline personality disorders, false allegations and Parental Alienation. Please feel free to share with me any suggestions, articles or insights that you may have regarding this subject. |
"I Hate You--don't leave me" a classic, must read resources for anyone with or dealing with a BPD.
Another interesting study:Good source for those dealing with persons with Personality Disorder |
From http://readingeagle.com/article.aspx?id=391735
Robert M. Gordon, an Allentown psychoanalyst and forensic psychologist who has conducted extensive research on parental alienation, said that people who practice parental alienation suffer from borderline personality disorder (BPD), a serious mental disorder.
BPD is characterized by intense emotions, turbulent relationships, self-harming acts, extreme moodiness, control issues, distorted self-image and behavioral problems, according to the National Alliance on Mental Illness. One to 2 percent of the general population suffers from BPD.
"Most people who have this don't know it, and if they did, they probably would deny it," Gordon said.
BPD is treatable and symptoms can be minimized when addressed and treated. Most people with the condition, however, do not seek treatment.
Parental alienation is a form of brainwashing, Gordon said, as children are forced to agree with whatever the alienating parent tells them.
"The children actually have to see things the way the parent does, or they become the enemy," Gordon said. "They understand that, and they fear that if they're the enemy, their parent won't take care of them or love them anymore."
Parental alienation takes a terrible toll on children, and it's very difficult to repair the damage.
"Most (children) remain brainwashed for their whole lives," Gordon said.
More from Robert M. Gordon:
http://www.mmpi-info.com/psychology-publications/RmGordonPASMMPI-2manuscriptAJFTRev.pdf
Robert M. Gordon, an Allentown psychoanalyst and forensic psychologist who has conducted extensive research on parental alienation, said that people who practice parental alienation suffer from borderline personality disorder (BPD), a serious mental disorder.
BPD is characterized by intense emotions, turbulent relationships, self-harming acts, extreme moodiness, control issues, distorted self-image and behavioral problems, according to the National Alliance on Mental Illness. One to 2 percent of the general population suffers from BPD.
"Most people who have this don't know it, and if they did, they probably would deny it," Gordon said.
BPD is treatable and symptoms can be minimized when addressed and treated. Most people with the condition, however, do not seek treatment.
Parental alienation is a form of brainwashing, Gordon said, as children are forced to agree with whatever the alienating parent tells them.
"The children actually have to see things the way the parent does, or they become the enemy," Gordon said. "They understand that, and they fear that if they're the enemy, their parent won't take care of them or love them anymore."
Parental alienation takes a terrible toll on children, and it's very difficult to repair the damage.
"Most (children) remain brainwashed for their whole lives," Gordon said.
More from Robert M. Gordon:
http://www.mmpi-info.com/psychology-publications/RmGordonPASMMPI-2manuscriptAJFTRev.pdf
