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What People are Saying About: Parental Alienation
 A Collection of Voices

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Linda Gottlieb, LMFT
Author, Advocate
"The PAS is an insidious, devastating, bewildering, and commonly unrecognizable form of child abuse."
Dr. Linda Nielsen 
Professor of Educational and Adolescent Psychology 
Wake Forest University
"...the research is abundantly clear on this: only allowing fathers and children to live together 15 or 20 percent of the time is not in most children’s best interests."
Liza Alvarado- 
It is detrimental to a child's well being to carry on the burden of having to choose between two parents. I believe that children naturally want to love both parents, unless they have been systematically taught to hate, just like with racism, cults, bullying, and hate crimes.
Christopher Pesche 
DES PLAINES, IL
"Mother of my child falsely accused me of abuse and I want my child back"
Richard Warshak
Psychologist, Author Divorce Poison
"There's a denial of the problem reminiscent of how child abuse used to be denied," he said. "Often children end up losing an entire side of the family, as if aunts, uncles and cousins all died at the same time, because they lose that contact and that support. And as they get older they feel a sense of loss and become angry with the favored parent for having poisoned their relationships."
Tony Moscardelli
Just remember everytime a man is suffering because of Family Law (corruption) ... Remember that his Mom , Dad and his children suffer also . All because of anothers personal and finacial Greed !!! Grrrrr

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One father from the San Gabriel Valley in the middle of a custody battle who asked to be called Norm said his two teenage daughters say they don’t want to have anything to do with him, and he can’t figure out why.
“They call me a violent man, they say I am aggravating,” said Norm. “I had a bad custody evaluator and now I barely see them.”
Parental Alienation
Awareness Organization(PAAO) Family courts embrace adversarial situations and often empower the alienating parent. Alienating parents have passed the course in manipulation and are very convincing. As a result, the courts lack of education, empathy, knowledge of children development or need for power further hurts the child.   
Response to Top Judge recommending 3 Strike & you're out rule for alienating Parents:
At last... someone speaking up for the many thousands of victims of this crime, where the bitter ex partners get away with alienating the children from their fathers and grandparents, brainwashing the kids into beleiving that daddy doesn't love them anymore!.... we need legislation urgently!!!

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Marianne Manko
 "She will never admit that she did anything wrong. She still believes her own lies," in speaking about her being alienated by her mother as a child.
Cindy Corsi
A long time ago I wrote that a child can never really heal emotionally unless the alienating parent admits to some degree that they were wrong and gives the child permission to love and be loved by their other parent. Even if this happens, there will still be residual damage to the child, but at least love will help them heal. In Tara Eisenhard's book, The D-Word, she included just that. The mom ended up telling her daughter that she was wrong and that she wanted her to see her father. The young girl was already empowered to an abusive level, that it took her awhile to reposition herself and her relationship with her father with the help of a very understanding therapist. This book has the remedy. Judges could make this happen!
Seth & Angela Wiek- Oregon
It doesn't matter what name you give it, Parental Alienation, toxic parenting, hostile aggressive parenting, what matters is that it's ripping families apart. It's abusive, it's devastating, & it's increasing in frequency because there's no real accountability for parents who manipulate & alienate children from their parents/family, seeking to destroy their child's family relationships. 

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Joan Teresa Kloth-Zanard "PAS can be further described as a form of psychological kidnapping where the child’s mind has been forced to prejudicially believe and discriminate against the Targeted Parent." 
Robert Gougaloff
Alienated Parent
"My observations have lead me to the conclusion that such parents are usually unable to “individuate” (see children as separate humans from themselves) and usually become overly enmeshed with their children."
Fathers And Families
"A bizarre system that encourages parents to use disturbing tactics in order to win something while going bankrupt...then has the audacity to talk about "High Conflict" to deny half of a child's family equal parentage and access to the child."
Basia KowalikDirector of "Reaching Higher Ground" Non-Profit for Alienated Children
Remember that in PA, it is not as easy as getting a court order or even showing proof. What we deal with is a systematic manipulation of a child who implicitly trusts the alienator. This process takes time to develop and will take even more time to overcome.
...What I want everyone to know is that children/adults of PA do eventually understand what is going on. Circumstances of shame, ego, pressure and fear of the alienator can all keep them a finger touch away. They are afraid. 
J. Michael Kelly 
Los Angeles Attorney
“Ninety-eight percent of the time that you see abuse charges that have not been verified by police, those allegations are coached,” said J. Michael Kelly, a Los Angeles County lawyer, and member of the United Fathers of California law group.

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Joe Barrow, MFTt
www.April25.org
"The alienating parent alone can not typically completely alienate a loving child from the other parent, on their own; it takes a team effort that involves a misguided mental health "professional" and a disastrously broken family law system."
Richard Warshak
Psychologist, Author Divorce Poison
Parental alienation is "one of the most unrecognized forms of child abuse," said Dallas-based psychologist Richard Warshak, who wrote a book about the topic, "Divorce Poison: Protecting the Parent-Child Bond from a Vindictive Ex" 
Anonymous AP
I'm tired. I'm tired of all this manipulation going on. I'm tired of pride, anger, bitterness, hate, bulling, lying, mental abuse, emotional abuse, the hostility, and vindictiveness. This game she plays where only she wins and everyone is left with nothing. Some will be left with scares that may never heal. Some will feel the devastation of knowing they have been used to hurt people they love. It's one thing to hate someone but it's a different thing when you use your own child to hurt someone just because you hate them. I'm just tired of playing this game.

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Dennis Prager
“I do think that the badmouthing and alienating of a child from a parent is one of the few unforgivable sins. I do think those people will have to answer to God who will say, “You allowed your anger to destroy the relationship of your child to the other parent? Isn’t that why I gave you a conscience?”
John T. Steinbeck
Author, Advocate www.BrainWashingChildren.com
"A child in the midst of a brainwashing campaign is learning more than just to despise and think negatively of a parent. He or she is being taught how to hate in general."
Dr Amy J. Baker
“It is unfortunate that women’s groups have taken a stance against the issue, because many women have suffered because of the actions of alienators,” said Baker, who added that both men and women alienate their children from the other parent."
A 2005 study of 125 high-conflict divorce cases by San Jose State University researcher Janet Johnstone indicated that Baker might be right. The study found that 50 percent of women in the cases showed signs of alienating their children, and 45 percent of men.
Joseph Goldberg 
"Children that advance to the more severe stages of parental alienation have delusional thinking. One such belief is that the parent they once loved and trusted, is now dangerous and unsafe to be with. The alienating parent maintains the same belief. This of course has a substantial impact on the child's visitation refusal behaviour."
Against Parental Alienation
I need to make something clear, I am against parental alienation... I do not support one gender over the other as victims... as it has been my experience that either gender may fell victim to this type of abuse. Therefore I don't support gender based parental alienation groups. Parental Alienation does not discriminate. Thank you
Danny-Toni Edinger 
"Like grieving a death" - that is how I have felt throughout this entire experience. Its hard to put the emotions into words....it's almost like witnessing a slow death that you can prevent, but are forbidden from doing so...and instead are forced to watch your loved one die.
John T Steinbeck
"The sad irony is, the people that should be in counseling aren’t, while the innocent children are. It’s almost as if the parents are conditioning their child to get used to their abusive behaviors…"
Dr. Philip Stahl, 
California Evaluator and member of the state’s Association of Family & Conciliation Courts.
“Courts are ruling in favor of people unfairly accused of alienation, and they are ruling against people who have been alienated ” said Stahl. “Problems described by advocates on both sides on the issue are happening.”
Stahl says that in some cases, the children themselves aren’t even sure if what they are saying is true.
“You’ve got kids who don’t know what to believe,” said Stahl. “It’s hard to tell what is and isn’t real.”
Ashley Bray · 
Carnegie, Pennsylvania

Mothers who make false claims against their spouses in order to keep them away from THEIR children, love their children less than they hate their husbands. Only a selfish person with no soul would take a caring parent away from their kids. Shame on these women. 
Men, don't ever give up the fight. Your children need you. There are organizations out there for this very purpose. Women who do this sort of thing, listen up: You make it so much harder for women and children who are truly abused by their husbands/fathers. And shame on you for that. You have a dark heart if you can put your child through something so despicable. What you are doing is a form of child abuse and the children should be removed from your home.
Of course, this only applies to those who do not abuse their families. If you do that, you should be in one place only: prison.
Nila Fordyce
The Family Legal System is corrupt,greedy,biased and incompetent in this country. Some states are worse than others,i.e.,California for one. The tragic thing about this is, it has been going on for years......and continues to destroy futures of our children and their beloved parents. Especially, the one left behind in one terrible way or the other and unfortunately, it is still the fathers that are getting left behind. People, children NEED their fathers as much as they need their mothers--were still in the l9th century here. I am a woman and I have experienced this tragic situation before,I know alot of other wonderful fathers that have been thru an egregious court system and all you have to do is READ about it--it's everywhere...It's bad!!!
Gina Peterson
Alienated Mother
"Keep Praying. I filed my Response Declaration and this Judge says he wants to read it first! Finally!! A Judge who will actually read something I have to say. 
It's continued to Fri. And I'm praying this Judge sees through my X's vile attempt to destroy me."
Geri FoxChild and Adolescent Psychiatrist 
"It's complicated," said Geri Fox, a child and adolescent psychiatrist with the Institute for Juvenile Research, a child guidance clinic that is part of the University of Illinois at Chicago. "You have to sort out where the trouble is from and sort out how much is based on reality and how much of it is based on distortion."
Joan Kelly
Clinical Psychologist
"Typically, one child among siblings is alienated, but an older sibling may try to recruit younger siblings to steer from one parent. Children ages 9 to 16 are the most susceptible to alienation"

























































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