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Tammy's Declaration 2012
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Exhibits in This Declaration:
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Tammy's Declaration 2012
My name is Tammy Carley-Barrow. I am Joe Barrow’s wife and April’s Step-Mom. I have been part of April’s life since she was in third grade. For the past 13 years I have taught 5th graders at Johnson Elementary School in Indio and, along with my husband, write and publish children’s journals and books that promote self-esteem building, accountability, and life enriching activities. I am currently going back to school to obtain my second master’s degree, this time in Educational Leadership and Administration.
As a mother of two children with whom I share with their biological father, it is appalling to me that Christy not only refuses to share April, but then places her in the middle to choose even after this was discussed with Dr. Amy Miller. Placing a 14 year old in the precarious position of having to choose is never a good idea. It can disrupt a relationship, not to mention the harm it does to a child who has to choose between disappointing one parent or alienation the other. It is what is called a double bind.
My concerns are the same as they were in 2010. I am extremely troubled about April, due to her mother’s maladaptive behavior, unwillingness to co-parent, emotional instability, and the alienating of April from her father, me, and her three sisters. I am further distressed by the emotional and psychological harm that she is causing April by setting her against her father at a crucial time in a 14 year old’s life. In the recent past, April has told me that her mother and her older sister Kaylee regularly speak badly of her father, but doesn’t know if she believes the really bad things that they say he does. However, in a letter to Joe on August 18th, April writes to her dad, "You will always love Stephanie more than me. I believe this is true now." Clearly, April now believes the horrible things that have been said about her father. I can only imagine the torment April must feel emotionally.
Christy has difficulties discussing any issues that arise with co-parenting April. Instead of dealing with the issue, Christy, would rather 'sweep them under the rug. She will then say to Joe and me, in front of April, that "She is a good kid Joe. I wish you would realize that," as she pulls April closer to her and holds her reassuringly. Christy also makes statements like, "you expect her to be perfect" . These types of statements are made so often made April’s presence. April now repeats these phrases convincingly. It has taken a toll on our relationship with April because April now believes that Joe doesn't think April is a good kid and that he expects her to be perfect. Unfortunately, Christy sees Joe's concerns as him being overbearing and controlling, when in fact it is a parent's responsibility to guide and redirect children when there is concern.
I have listened to Christy on several occasions claim that she doesn't care about the court order, April is HER daughter and she will make the decisions. And she continually threatens to take Joe back to court to take visitation time away from him - not because he is in any abusive towards April or an unfit father, but because she seems to instinctively go after Joe's relationship with April any time there is a parenting disagreement. Christy's actions show she would rather have Joe completely out of the picture so she doesn't have to co-parent. Another example of Christy's inability to co-parent would be when we were on our family vacation this past summer. All four parents (biological and step parents) previously agreed that April is not mature, or emotionally ready to be in a relationship or have a boyfriend, as she has made poor decisions such as being involved in a relationship with the school bully, kissing one boy to “get over" another boy, and a boy enjoying April 'rubbing on him' - all happening when she was between the ages of eleven and twelve. On our vacation April had been extremely distracted and at one point stressed out to the point of crying as we were having dinner. It turned out April was upset because her current boyfriend did not text her back that he loves her, soon enough. Joe and I discussed this issue with April as we were walking back to our hotel in NYC. April informed us when we got back to the hotel room that her mother told her it was okay for her to have a boyfriend, just don't label it “boyfriend”. According to April she was told to call it a crush and to not tell her dad. Joe and I sent text messages to Christy and phone calls asking if this was true. Christy refused to answer the text messages and hung up when Joe asked her on the phone. We later found that it was true. Christy admitted that she had told April to not label it as having a boyfriend.
This is a common issue we have had with Christy. She had previously told April to lie about April’s 24 year old brother, Josh, dating a 16 year old, to not answer Joe’s phone calls when she is left alone, and not to let Joe know when Christy goes out of town or out and leaves April alone.
April has had to work hard at rebuilding her trust with our family due to Christy’s encouragement to lie and refrain from revealing less than appropriate behavior, but she has done it with the guidance of our family. Unfortunately, the rewards given at Christy’s house; being allowed to have a boyfriend, the freedom from accountability, and the material rewards for this less than truthful behavior is too much temptation for a 14 year old. When entrenched and fully participating in the alienation process April is showered with gifts and attentive behavior that is not the norm.
Christy’s response to our concerns are to put them off by repeatedly threatening to go back to court and/or stating that "we will discuss this in therapy." The threats we usually dismiss, the latter response was interesting considering Christy had been avoiding therapy since around January. This incident was also another example of Christy being unable to follow through on the boundaries that all four parents had set. We decided that it was not entirely April's fault and that it was her mother who is unable to set these types of boundaries and follow through on them like a responsible parent. This is not meant as a slight on her overall abilities but it is evident that Christy lacks basic parenting skills.
April is the victim of being taught by her mother and sister to play head games and taught to be deceitful to people she loves. I feel so bad for her, when she has her mother and mother's family teaching her to lie, mislead, and conceal while my husband and I trying to teacher her, the importance of being honest, accountability and making good choices. When April was last with us in July, she complained about how she wanted to start over. Joe and I talked to her about how she could and how a good way to start would be by being impeccable with your word. We discussed the Four Agreements and talking to her about the why it is important to be honest. April appeared to embrace it and was remorseful for lying and having exaggerated about getting in trouble in New York City. We were very proud of her.
Things changed after her mother picked her up on Friday July 27, 2012.
We dealt with this same kind of situation in 2010 where April told many lies and has apologized repeatedly for the lies she told. She had, up until this summer, worked on being honest with us and was doing quite well.
Unfortunately, she was caught in the middle of being encouraged to lie about having a boyfriend and practicing being honest communication and problem solving. Again, this isn't April's fault, when a child is sent a clear message by her custodial parent to be deceitful; of course that is what a child is going to do. Upon returning to her mother's after our vacation, her lies and deceitfulness escalated to an all-time high. Now we are enduring claims of sexual abuse.
April claims she is afraid of Joe and uncomfortable to come to our home, once again. The basis for her fears and un-comfortableness stemmed from her wanting to get her way and to have a boyfriend. This was the issue in 2010 when we experienced this same thing. She felt uncomfortable because she knew we do not approve of these actions at such a young age and immaturity level. If April is truly afraid to be at our home, she is a great actress as it appears to me and my entire family that she always enjoys her time with us. The last week that we were allowed to have her during summer, she had a wonderful time and enthusiastically discussed the book The Four Agreements, in addition to painting, swimming, going out to dinner, going to the movies, and Knott's Soak City, in addition to quality family time. However, when she went home to her mother's house she had a very different story to tell. During a phone conversation with April and Christy, April claimed that she was yelled at all week. Rather than Christy questioning the reality of being yelled at all week or what we really had done together the week when she was with us, Christy enthusiastically validated her claims and said to Joe she has no idea why April is feeling this way, but there must be a reason. Five days later Christy wrote her declaration to which we are in court for now. After all, it is easier for her if Joe were out of the picture, then she would not have to follow through on healthy boundaries or co-parent April in a healthy manner.
The abuse that Joe has endured by Christy's and her family is absurd.
Besides Christy’s gloating when we are denied April, we also have endured Michael call Joe a knuckle head, a stalker, an idiot, a loser in addition to treating him like a criminal by asking him to get off his property and wait in the street when Joe goes to pick up April, he also mocked Joe by recording the five minutes that my family was allowed to spend with April on her fourteenth birthday. The stalker, making Joe waiting in the street, and the birthday incident was video recorded.
On August 10, after having April escorted out of gymnastics and into his car, Michael came back to our van window to boast that April does not have to go with us, claiming that the judge even said that. Joe rolled up the window and Michael kissed his fingertips and rubbed them again the window of our van. This exchange was audio recorded by my husband.
One of the most disturbing incidences that I have experienced was Michael as he walked by us leaving the court room on November 29, 2012 humming 'haa haa haa haa" as if just succeeded in destroying Joe's relationship with April being a game that he just won, and rubbing it in our face. I am concerned that this is the type of man that is in April’s life, a man who is filled with such animosity towards her biological father and his family that he would boast on such an occasion.
My husband loves his daughter and simply wants to have a relationship with her, as does my entire family, however Christy and her family are making it impossible. We all miss her. Our three daughters, 9, 7, and 4 years old don't understand why April is not being shared with our family, all they know is that they love their sister and lately she hasn’t been in their lives.
April's hatred towards Joe and now me has trickled down to her sisters. Malia (9 years old) and Jaida (7 years old) have sent April several messages to her from their iTouches. April has never responded to one message, but admitted she received the messages. I have sent 20 video, picture and text messages to April from October 6, 2012-November 23, 2012, none of which she has ever responded to either. It is devastating to read previous messages she has sent me and listen to voicemails. She was back to her loving self and it showed through her text messages and voicemails. It feels like I am mourning the loss of a child.
We hadn't missed a visit with April until after we came to court August 7, 2012. The ex-parte Christy filed was denied - but the commissioner of the court informed Christy that no police officer in the state of California will force a thirteen year old to visit her father. This gave Christy a loophole with which she could use to keep April from visiting and further move her agenda towards completely push Joe out of April's life. She then placed April in the middle again, claiming it was April's choice if she wanted to spend any time with her father or his family, even though Dr. Amy Miller discussed with us that placing April in this position places a burden on her, is not healthy for April, and is not a healthy family function. This is also stated in her report to the court. This court failed our family (and especially April). This court gave an alienating mother the green light to continue destroying a once loving father/daughter relationship. My family has seen April one overnight since July 27th and it would seem that was a set up to be able to press false allegations against Joe. The court then restated this claim again on November 29th.
In the past, April had complained to me many times about her Mother, mostly that her Mother sleeps a lot and isn’t involved in her life. We have had numerous conversations on how she can express her feelings to her Mother in a non-confrontational manner and have role played different scenarios of her asking her Mother to spend time with her. This is one of many examples of how we nurture and support our children when confronted with challenges. In contrast, Christy appears to validate any complaints that April claims to have about her father (and now myself), without question as to validity or if there is an underlying agenda, like wanting to hang-out with her boyfriend.
I am extremely distraught by the sexual allegations that Joe harassed April in the shower. At no time was this behavior mentioned while April was here, nor was there shouting from April while she was in the shower or at any other time. This alleged incident was not even mentioned to us until almost 2 weeks after it supposedly happened. April painted a picture to the mediator that her dad is some kind of pervert. I am not sure April is aware of the consequences of making these kinds of allegations. This entire accusation is a lie, including the details. April claimed that the shower curtain is clear and has fish at the bottom. April also claimed that we do not have any locks on the doors in our home. This is also false. The bathroom that April uses has two doors, one leading to the sink area and the other to the toilet\shower, BOTH have the same locks on them for the past ten+ years. Not to mention, that this is extremely out of character of my husband and offensive to have to respond to. (EXHIBIT 1)
Additionally, April stated to the mediator that her gymnastics friends no longer spend the night at her mother’s house due to me. However, it is the parents of these girls who approached me that their daughters are no longer allowed to spend the night at Christy’s due to lack of supervision and the kind of people that hang around Christy’s home with her older daughter, Kaylee.
Honestly, it is heartbreaking to be going through this situation. I see how April is when she is with my family - laughing, engaging, happy, creative, relaxed, excited to learn new things, and unfortunately her mother will never see or hear of this, nor allow April to express anything but hatred towards my family. On one of our past road trips, I have seen April brought to tears because her mother makes her feel guilty for being away for so long and not calling on her birthday. My husband and I both witnessed April attempting to call her mother as well as leaving her a voicemail.
A very typical behavior that April has exhibited is claiming that she fears her father and that she doesn’t want to visit our home when she isn’t getting her way. In the first text exchange April is upset that she isn’t getting to hang out with her friend, Cara, so she claims to never want to see her dad again and re-iterates one of Christy’s long held assertions that Joe is “controlling and manipulating.” In the next one April also gets upset when she is not getting her way but quickly changes her tune when she remembers that she is getting her warts removed that weekend, something that April had been waiting to get done. April then says that, “Ill go with yuh guys today i wnna go with yuh guys i miss yuh...” (EXHIBIT 2 and 3)
Finally, we would ask the court to allow us our day in court to display the overwhelming amount of evidence of Christy, Mike, and Kaylee’s alienating behavior towards Joe and our family. We believe that we have been unjustly alienated from our daughter and Christy has used the court system, once again, to this end. Unfortunately, this has worked as effectively as it has with her other 2 children she kept from her their respective fathers. The alienating behaviors need to stop. Encouraging and facilitating the hatred of a parent by another parent is detrimental to the best interest of April. She is being affected negatively by having to show hatred towards a loving father, whom she is naturally wanting to be allowed to love.
Please help us.
The documentation in this declaration and my husbands is only a fraction of what we have documented in the last two years.
I declare under penalty of perjury under the laws of the State of California that the foregoing is true and correct.
Signed, Date:
_________________________________ ______________________
My name is Tammy Carley-Barrow. I am Joe Barrow’s wife and April’s Step-Mom. I have been part of April’s life since she was in third grade. For the past 13 years I have taught 5th graders at Johnson Elementary School in Indio and, along with my husband, write and publish children’s journals and books that promote self-esteem building, accountability, and life enriching activities. I am currently going back to school to obtain my second master’s degree, this time in Educational Leadership and Administration.
As a mother of two children with whom I share with their biological father, it is appalling to me that Christy not only refuses to share April, but then places her in the middle to choose even after this was discussed with Dr. Amy Miller. Placing a 14 year old in the precarious position of having to choose is never a good idea. It can disrupt a relationship, not to mention the harm it does to a child who has to choose between disappointing one parent or alienation the other. It is what is called a double bind.
My concerns are the same as they were in 2010. I am extremely troubled about April, due to her mother’s maladaptive behavior, unwillingness to co-parent, emotional instability, and the alienating of April from her father, me, and her three sisters. I am further distressed by the emotional and psychological harm that she is causing April by setting her against her father at a crucial time in a 14 year old’s life. In the recent past, April has told me that her mother and her older sister Kaylee regularly speak badly of her father, but doesn’t know if she believes the really bad things that they say he does. However, in a letter to Joe on August 18th, April writes to her dad, "You will always love Stephanie more than me. I believe this is true now." Clearly, April now believes the horrible things that have been said about her father. I can only imagine the torment April must feel emotionally.
Christy has difficulties discussing any issues that arise with co-parenting April. Instead of dealing with the issue, Christy, would rather 'sweep them under the rug. She will then say to Joe and me, in front of April, that "She is a good kid Joe. I wish you would realize that," as she pulls April closer to her and holds her reassuringly. Christy also makes statements like, "you expect her to be perfect" . These types of statements are made so often made April’s presence. April now repeats these phrases convincingly. It has taken a toll on our relationship with April because April now believes that Joe doesn't think April is a good kid and that he expects her to be perfect. Unfortunately, Christy sees Joe's concerns as him being overbearing and controlling, when in fact it is a parent's responsibility to guide and redirect children when there is concern.
I have listened to Christy on several occasions claim that she doesn't care about the court order, April is HER daughter and she will make the decisions. And she continually threatens to take Joe back to court to take visitation time away from him - not because he is in any abusive towards April or an unfit father, but because she seems to instinctively go after Joe's relationship with April any time there is a parenting disagreement. Christy's actions show she would rather have Joe completely out of the picture so she doesn't have to co-parent. Another example of Christy's inability to co-parent would be when we were on our family vacation this past summer. All four parents (biological and step parents) previously agreed that April is not mature, or emotionally ready to be in a relationship or have a boyfriend, as she has made poor decisions such as being involved in a relationship with the school bully, kissing one boy to “get over" another boy, and a boy enjoying April 'rubbing on him' - all happening when she was between the ages of eleven and twelve. On our vacation April had been extremely distracted and at one point stressed out to the point of crying as we were having dinner. It turned out April was upset because her current boyfriend did not text her back that he loves her, soon enough. Joe and I discussed this issue with April as we were walking back to our hotel in NYC. April informed us when we got back to the hotel room that her mother told her it was okay for her to have a boyfriend, just don't label it “boyfriend”. According to April she was told to call it a crush and to not tell her dad. Joe and I sent text messages to Christy and phone calls asking if this was true. Christy refused to answer the text messages and hung up when Joe asked her on the phone. We later found that it was true. Christy admitted that she had told April to not label it as having a boyfriend.
This is a common issue we have had with Christy. She had previously told April to lie about April’s 24 year old brother, Josh, dating a 16 year old, to not answer Joe’s phone calls when she is left alone, and not to let Joe know when Christy goes out of town or out and leaves April alone.
April has had to work hard at rebuilding her trust with our family due to Christy’s encouragement to lie and refrain from revealing less than appropriate behavior, but she has done it with the guidance of our family. Unfortunately, the rewards given at Christy’s house; being allowed to have a boyfriend, the freedom from accountability, and the material rewards for this less than truthful behavior is too much temptation for a 14 year old. When entrenched and fully participating in the alienation process April is showered with gifts and attentive behavior that is not the norm.
Christy’s response to our concerns are to put them off by repeatedly threatening to go back to court and/or stating that "we will discuss this in therapy." The threats we usually dismiss, the latter response was interesting considering Christy had been avoiding therapy since around January. This incident was also another example of Christy being unable to follow through on the boundaries that all four parents had set. We decided that it was not entirely April's fault and that it was her mother who is unable to set these types of boundaries and follow through on them like a responsible parent. This is not meant as a slight on her overall abilities but it is evident that Christy lacks basic parenting skills.
April is the victim of being taught by her mother and sister to play head games and taught to be deceitful to people she loves. I feel so bad for her, when she has her mother and mother's family teaching her to lie, mislead, and conceal while my husband and I trying to teacher her, the importance of being honest, accountability and making good choices. When April was last with us in July, she complained about how she wanted to start over. Joe and I talked to her about how she could and how a good way to start would be by being impeccable with your word. We discussed the Four Agreements and talking to her about the why it is important to be honest. April appeared to embrace it and was remorseful for lying and having exaggerated about getting in trouble in New York City. We were very proud of her.
Things changed after her mother picked her up on Friday July 27, 2012.
We dealt with this same kind of situation in 2010 where April told many lies and has apologized repeatedly for the lies she told. She had, up until this summer, worked on being honest with us and was doing quite well.
Unfortunately, she was caught in the middle of being encouraged to lie about having a boyfriend and practicing being honest communication and problem solving. Again, this isn't April's fault, when a child is sent a clear message by her custodial parent to be deceitful; of course that is what a child is going to do. Upon returning to her mother's after our vacation, her lies and deceitfulness escalated to an all-time high. Now we are enduring claims of sexual abuse.
April claims she is afraid of Joe and uncomfortable to come to our home, once again. The basis for her fears and un-comfortableness stemmed from her wanting to get her way and to have a boyfriend. This was the issue in 2010 when we experienced this same thing. She felt uncomfortable because she knew we do not approve of these actions at such a young age and immaturity level. If April is truly afraid to be at our home, she is a great actress as it appears to me and my entire family that she always enjoys her time with us. The last week that we were allowed to have her during summer, she had a wonderful time and enthusiastically discussed the book The Four Agreements, in addition to painting, swimming, going out to dinner, going to the movies, and Knott's Soak City, in addition to quality family time. However, when she went home to her mother's house she had a very different story to tell. During a phone conversation with April and Christy, April claimed that she was yelled at all week. Rather than Christy questioning the reality of being yelled at all week or what we really had done together the week when she was with us, Christy enthusiastically validated her claims and said to Joe she has no idea why April is feeling this way, but there must be a reason. Five days later Christy wrote her declaration to which we are in court for now. After all, it is easier for her if Joe were out of the picture, then she would not have to follow through on healthy boundaries or co-parent April in a healthy manner.
The abuse that Joe has endured by Christy's and her family is absurd.
Besides Christy’s gloating when we are denied April, we also have endured Michael call Joe a knuckle head, a stalker, an idiot, a loser in addition to treating him like a criminal by asking him to get off his property and wait in the street when Joe goes to pick up April, he also mocked Joe by recording the five minutes that my family was allowed to spend with April on her fourteenth birthday. The stalker, making Joe waiting in the street, and the birthday incident was video recorded.
On August 10, after having April escorted out of gymnastics and into his car, Michael came back to our van window to boast that April does not have to go with us, claiming that the judge even said that. Joe rolled up the window and Michael kissed his fingertips and rubbed them again the window of our van. This exchange was audio recorded by my husband.
One of the most disturbing incidences that I have experienced was Michael as he walked by us leaving the court room on November 29, 2012 humming 'haa haa haa haa" as if just succeeded in destroying Joe's relationship with April being a game that he just won, and rubbing it in our face. I am concerned that this is the type of man that is in April’s life, a man who is filled with such animosity towards her biological father and his family that he would boast on such an occasion.
My husband loves his daughter and simply wants to have a relationship with her, as does my entire family, however Christy and her family are making it impossible. We all miss her. Our three daughters, 9, 7, and 4 years old don't understand why April is not being shared with our family, all they know is that they love their sister and lately she hasn’t been in their lives.
April's hatred towards Joe and now me has trickled down to her sisters. Malia (9 years old) and Jaida (7 years old) have sent April several messages to her from their iTouches. April has never responded to one message, but admitted she received the messages. I have sent 20 video, picture and text messages to April from October 6, 2012-November 23, 2012, none of which she has ever responded to either. It is devastating to read previous messages she has sent me and listen to voicemails. She was back to her loving self and it showed through her text messages and voicemails. It feels like I am mourning the loss of a child.
We hadn't missed a visit with April until after we came to court August 7, 2012. The ex-parte Christy filed was denied - but the commissioner of the court informed Christy that no police officer in the state of California will force a thirteen year old to visit her father. This gave Christy a loophole with which she could use to keep April from visiting and further move her agenda towards completely push Joe out of April's life. She then placed April in the middle again, claiming it was April's choice if she wanted to spend any time with her father or his family, even though Dr. Amy Miller discussed with us that placing April in this position places a burden on her, is not healthy for April, and is not a healthy family function. This is also stated in her report to the court. This court failed our family (and especially April). This court gave an alienating mother the green light to continue destroying a once loving father/daughter relationship. My family has seen April one overnight since July 27th and it would seem that was a set up to be able to press false allegations against Joe. The court then restated this claim again on November 29th.
In the past, April had complained to me many times about her Mother, mostly that her Mother sleeps a lot and isn’t involved in her life. We have had numerous conversations on how she can express her feelings to her Mother in a non-confrontational manner and have role played different scenarios of her asking her Mother to spend time with her. This is one of many examples of how we nurture and support our children when confronted with challenges. In contrast, Christy appears to validate any complaints that April claims to have about her father (and now myself), without question as to validity or if there is an underlying agenda, like wanting to hang-out with her boyfriend.
I am extremely distraught by the sexual allegations that Joe harassed April in the shower. At no time was this behavior mentioned while April was here, nor was there shouting from April while she was in the shower or at any other time. This alleged incident was not even mentioned to us until almost 2 weeks after it supposedly happened. April painted a picture to the mediator that her dad is some kind of pervert. I am not sure April is aware of the consequences of making these kinds of allegations. This entire accusation is a lie, including the details. April claimed that the shower curtain is clear and has fish at the bottom. April also claimed that we do not have any locks on the doors in our home. This is also false. The bathroom that April uses has two doors, one leading to the sink area and the other to the toilet\shower, BOTH have the same locks on them for the past ten+ years. Not to mention, that this is extremely out of character of my husband and offensive to have to respond to. (EXHIBIT 1)
Additionally, April stated to the mediator that her gymnastics friends no longer spend the night at her mother’s house due to me. However, it is the parents of these girls who approached me that their daughters are no longer allowed to spend the night at Christy’s due to lack of supervision and the kind of people that hang around Christy’s home with her older daughter, Kaylee.
Honestly, it is heartbreaking to be going through this situation. I see how April is when she is with my family - laughing, engaging, happy, creative, relaxed, excited to learn new things, and unfortunately her mother will never see or hear of this, nor allow April to express anything but hatred towards my family. On one of our past road trips, I have seen April brought to tears because her mother makes her feel guilty for being away for so long and not calling on her birthday. My husband and I both witnessed April attempting to call her mother as well as leaving her a voicemail.
A very typical behavior that April has exhibited is claiming that she fears her father and that she doesn’t want to visit our home when she isn’t getting her way. In the first text exchange April is upset that she isn’t getting to hang out with her friend, Cara, so she claims to never want to see her dad again and re-iterates one of Christy’s long held assertions that Joe is “controlling and manipulating.” In the next one April also gets upset when she is not getting her way but quickly changes her tune when she remembers that she is getting her warts removed that weekend, something that April had been waiting to get done. April then says that, “Ill go with yuh guys today i wnna go with yuh guys i miss yuh...” (EXHIBIT 2 and 3)
Finally, we would ask the court to allow us our day in court to display the overwhelming amount of evidence of Christy, Mike, and Kaylee’s alienating behavior towards Joe and our family. We believe that we have been unjustly alienated from our daughter and Christy has used the court system, once again, to this end. Unfortunately, this has worked as effectively as it has with her other 2 children she kept from her their respective fathers. The alienating behaviors need to stop. Encouraging and facilitating the hatred of a parent by another parent is detrimental to the best interest of April. She is being affected negatively by having to show hatred towards a loving father, whom she is naturally wanting to be allowed to love.
Please help us.
The documentation in this declaration and my husbands is only a fraction of what we have documented in the last two years.
I declare under penalty of perjury under the laws of the State of California that the foregoing is true and correct.
Signed, Date:
_________________________________ ______________________