The Victim CardA transparent example of an alienating parent playing the victim card. There is a stark contrast to how she plays a scared victim in front of an audience on one day and how she acts the next day.
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It often amazes me how Christy, who is so transparent to those who know her, is able to effortlessly manipulate even "professionals" buying into her web of lies. But what is more mind-boggling is how easily her entire story falls apart if someone would just ask some simple questions. But they hardly do.
This is an audio of Christy. It is just an example of how she is able to manipulate things to her favor. Almost verbatim this is what she did in our first mediation. November 1, 2012: It is broad daylight... Location is in front of Christy’s house. Her husband is in the house with his arsenal of weapons (So I am constantly reminded) I am in our family van in the driver’s seat parked in front of Christy's house. My cousin, Diana, is sitting in the passenger seat. Christy is outside the passenger window...along with April. This is a perfect example of how Christy plays the victim and how effectively it can work. We are in front of Christy’s house. Her husband is inside, my cousin, is with us and it’s in the middle of the day. April is standing next to the van as well. What is there to be afraid of? What does she feel is going to happen? What has ever happened?
At the end, when Christy says "Anyway Joe," does it sound like she is afraid of me?
The transcript is below in case you have a hard time hearing or understanding what is going on. Transcript: My notes are in red (and in parentheses) and not part of actual conversation.Christy: Joe, you have got to...
Joe: (to April) April, will you excuse us for a second, while I talk to your mom about something? Christy: You have got to own up to your responsibilities as, as, of what you do to people. (What do I do kill, torture people? This is Christy always, always accusing me of doing bad things. Always and purposely vague in her accusations and more often than not, in April's presence). Joe: (to April) will you excuse us for a minute? Diane: I can go out there for a minute...(my cousin volunteers to step away with April and allow Christy and I to talk) Joe: okay... Diane: IS that okay? Joe: If you want yeah... [You could hear van door open] April: This isn’t even necessary, he’s not gonna...nothings gonna change mom. (April parroting something her mother always says to me, how I am not going to change. Change from what? I ask and they never have an answer) Joe: I need to talk to your mom April. Diane: (to April) come on Meggie you can keep me company... Christy: No. I don’t want to talk to him alone. I don’t feel comfortable. (Here you go. Christy begins to play victim) Christy: (To Diane) Just stay with me. (As if she is scared or concerned) Diane: Are you sure? Joe: Why? Christy: I think that Diane is right she is a biased party and I would like her to be involved..I would like you to hear..I don’t want to be alone with him. I don’t feel comfortable. (Keep in mind the word "comfortable") Joe: Well maybe...see that...maybe that’s where April gets it from. Christy: Any-wayyy, Joe. (<-- Does this sound like she is afraid of me) November 2, 2012: This is a video that was recorded the very next day.
In this video, Christy and I are in a practically vacant parking lot, in a not so great area of Victorville, definitely not in front of Christy's house with her husband a few feet away, my female cousin is not around around, and neither is April. (Christy has just placed April in her car and then walks over to claim she can't get her out.
Christy doesn't seem at all like the very apprehensive victim she played yesterday in front of my female cousin. Instead, she approaches me across the parking lot. She has just blatantly interfered with my visitation that April and I had agreed on upstairs in the therapist's office. I was upset about Christy's blatantly discouraging April to not come with me for the weekend (see video below). Yet, it is interesting how she is not uncomfortable or afraid of me when there is no audience. This is what happened right before Christy approached me in the above video. In this video we had just climbed the stairs down from April's therapist. In a rare show of support, this therapist Shirley Stutson had agreed with me (and common sense, a court-ordered psychologist report, and a court-order) that visitations should be allowed to continue. We all agreed, Christy remained quiet. Once outside, Christy walked behind me talking quietly with April. At the bottom of the steps Christy starts saying things like, 'I don't know Joe, am I going to have to pick her up or can you bring her back down?" Christy has always had a hard driving to my house to pick up April. I explain what the court order states and what we had agreed on and immediately turn on my camera:Christy never leaves instead places April in her car and then claims to not be allowed to get her out. She leaves while I have to sit there and wait for a Sheriff to enforce our court order. When the Sheriff arrives he has to call her to return. This Sheriff actually understood what was going on and asked her some good questions. Still, there is nothing he could do but write an incident report. He did however, include how while April could not say why she was "afraid" of me, her mother was able to help out.
Three hours later I am driving home without April with useless police incident report. (INCIDENT REPORTS Pg 1 and Pg 2 Below) |
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