So tomorrow, after not seeing Megan for about a year (Something that is so surreal to me that I have to pause, re-read it, and tell myself, yes this nightmare really is happening), Christy has agreed to allow our family to see her. According to Christy however, it is me who hasn't been wanting to see Megan all year. "...you have not attempted to see her since our court hearing."
This is another direct quote from Christy, "I have been encouraging her almost daily..." Even if I were to forget the fact that Christy repeatedly perjured herself in court, intimidated a witness (Sherry Glendenning) into changing her story(even though it was audio-recorded), and filed false allegations against me to remove ALL my parental rights, there is still the fact that she is the "parent" who at every opportunity has interfered with my attempts to communicate and see our daughter. And in the text below she has the audacity to imply that I have not attempted to see Megan. Why does she so blatantly and grossly distort facts? Well one she can't help herself, it is a learned behavior that has been passed down for at least 3 generations in her family and two, we have a family court system that allows this type of dysfunction and even encourages it. I am supposed divide our family and bring Sophie (only Sophie) to this exchange that is not likely to take place. Our precious Sophie, and set her up for a huge disappointment. Christy Garrison, a big difference between your family and ours is that we try to keep our children from being exposed to emotional abuse not thrust them into it. So, no. I will be driving up there by myself, and most likely be driving back home by myself as well.
All my alienated friends know what happens next-- our family doesn't get to see Megan.
This is another direct quote from Christy, "I have been encouraging her almost daily..." Even if I were to forget the fact that Christy repeatedly perjured herself in court, intimidated a witness (Sherry Glendenning) into changing her story(even though it was audio-recorded), and filed false allegations against me to remove ALL my parental rights, there is still the fact that she is the "parent" who at every opportunity has interfered with my attempts to communicate and see our daughter. And in the text below she has the audacity to imply that I have not attempted to see Megan. Why does she so blatantly and grossly distort facts? Well one she can't help herself, it is a learned behavior that has been passed down for at least 3 generations in her family and two, we have a family court system that allows this type of dysfunction and even encourages it. I am supposed divide our family and bring Sophie (only Sophie) to this exchange that is not likely to take place. Our precious Sophie, and set her up for a huge disappointment. Christy Garrison, a big difference between your family and ours is that we try to keep our children from being exposed to emotional abuse not thrust them into it. So, no. I will be driving up there by myself, and most likely be driving back home by myself as well.
All my alienated friends know what happens next-- our family doesn't get to see Megan.
Christine Garrison Decoded: I am confused as to why you won't let Megan see her sister? This one is easiest and obviously distortion of facts. There is nothing more that our family would love than for our daughters to be allowed to see each other and have a relationship. What may require pointing out is how Christy has a hard time acknowledging that Malia and Jaida are Megan's sisters. Weird right? You don't know the half of it. She is very upset! Christy speculates and dictates on a whim when, how, and under what circumstances Megan gets upset. Usually she is wrong, but even when she is wrong and all the evidence points towards Megan NOT being upset. Megan can and will claim that something has upset her if Christy tells her to do so. Megan was so excited to see the girls today, Note first that Christy now says "girls" as in plural. Including Malia and Jaida. Megan had actually texted and in a conversation claimed that she did NOT want to see Malia, Jaida or Sophie. why can't we just move forward...there is no moving forward with someone like Christy who is trapped in her own hell. My family and I would move forward in a heart beat. All we want is a relationship with Megan. I guess she is not feeling comfortable with a visit from just you and/Tammy. Very sad. I highly doubt Christy finds this sad at all. In fact, I can tell you that this is typical of Christy, its her Gloat, Victory Lap, one last swipe which she can not help but send. It says, "I won, I hurt you and I am so happy about it." |
What really needs to happen, and I have to give credit to my dad who reaffirmed this for me, is that there needs to be a narrated documentary showing the insidious and grossly perverted way in which an alienator manipulates not only their own child but others' perception of a situation. In Christy's crafty and deceitful text this morning (her typical, gloating, victory lap text) she claims that I upset Megan by not allowing Megan to visit her sisters AND she exclaims how "very sad" that Megan is not comfortable with visiting just me and Tammy. Far from the truth and of course these texts are attempts to distort what really is happening as well as raise more questions than answers.
What eventually happens is people don't want to go down this twisted rabbit hole. “This is just too weird for me,” their expressions seem to say. I see it in some of my friends and family even; they don’t fully get it and sometimes I lose them in trying to explain this. I don’t blame them. It’s like trying to explain something that has more twist than a Twilight Zone episode. I have to disengage after something like this, be thankful for my loving stable home, and just pray hard for Megan. This gets to be too weird and even a decent judge or mediator isn’t going to take the time to sort through this mess.
I believe this is another reason it is so refreshing to speak to another targeted parent/grandparent. I feel guilty that I get any satisfaction from someone sharing in this nightmare especially a mother or grandparent, but sorry, I do. At least momentarily, then I think about how meeting another targeted parent means there is a child somewhere suffering the same kind of internal torment that Megan is going through.
So yeah, I disengage.
I think I will take the girls swimming in a bit.
What eventually happens is people don't want to go down this twisted rabbit hole. “This is just too weird for me,” their expressions seem to say. I see it in some of my friends and family even; they don’t fully get it and sometimes I lose them in trying to explain this. I don’t blame them. It’s like trying to explain something that has more twist than a Twilight Zone episode. I have to disengage after something like this, be thankful for my loving stable home, and just pray hard for Megan. This gets to be too weird and even a decent judge or mediator isn’t going to take the time to sort through this mess.
I believe this is another reason it is so refreshing to speak to another targeted parent/grandparent. I feel guilty that I get any satisfaction from someone sharing in this nightmare especially a mother or grandparent, but sorry, I do. At least momentarily, then I think about how meeting another targeted parent means there is a child somewhere suffering the same kind of internal torment that Megan is going through.
So yeah, I disengage.
I think I will take the girls swimming in a bit.