It offends the heck out of me. It offends me for a lot more reasons though.
It offends me because the language is offensive. Moreso because it’s coming from our 14 year old daughter. It’s her cover photo for her Twitter account. It offends me even more because I can’t say anything about it. My hands are tied.
I can’t do what a normal, healthy, involved parent would do and tell her that it is offensive, that it is inappropriate and that it sends the wrong message about a beautiful young lady. I can’t tell her that she can do better because she is better than that.
In short, I can’t be a parent to her. The tragedy is that this is a time when she needs a parent the most.
Tammy and I have been monitoring her social media, like any good parent would. Yet we are unable to do anything about some of the disturbing behavior we have observed on her pages: her choice of friends, exposure to drug and alcohol use, or her emotionally abusive relationship with a boy that Christy, to this day, denies she is involved with.
There is so much of this type of thing on her social media that one might wonder what the hell her parents are thinking by allowing it?
I can tell you that it is heartbreaking to have to sit and watch this happen right under our eyes and not be allowed to be a parent. But like I said, my hands are tied.
On November 29, 2012, Commissioner Daniel made a “temporary” ordered that I do not contact our daughter.
Her exact words were, “So you're not to be calling and bugging her...” I am a loving and fit father, I don’t believe I have ever called and bugged our daughter. Do parents do that? Bug their kids?
But if Commissioner Daniel wants to refer to loving parenting as bugging, well, our daughter could use some bugging right about now.
I am offended that this judge has tied my hands and left her without a concerned, stable, and active parent who monitors, guides, and compassionately re-directs our daughter at a crucial time in her life.
It appears Christy continues fails to effectively monitoring her Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or her whereabouts for that matter.
Tammy and I monitor it regularly, but again, our hands are tied.
When we address these concerns with Christy, we are accused of stalking or spying on our daughter.
In addition, my wife and I are blocked from our daughter’s accounts. (See Amy Miller Psychologist report)
Perhaps now Christy will be a parent and ask our daughter to clean up her social media—or most likely she will scour through our daughter’s social media sights to find out how Tammy and I are monitoring her. So we expect to be blocked out once again.
SEVEN SEX OFFENDERS IN THE AREA
Our daughter just had a close call. The scary part is that she isn’t even aware of it. Her mother isn’t yet but she will be. Even though Christy doesn’t monitor our daughter, she sure as hell will stalk my Facebook and website. (Hi Christy)
So after this Christy will know that our daughter was almost picked up by a stranger offering her a ride first and then an opportunity to be in a video.
Of course the story will change and Christy will say that she was aware of the incident, knew exactly where our daughter was. Heck, she may even say that they were together and was there to “protect her.” Or better yet, that she was with her sister Kaylee and therefor safe.
Then of course she will add how it was our daughter who found this post and that is why my relationship with her is broken. Deflecting from the fact that our daughter’s social media and movements remain unmonitored. Deflecting from the fact that what has been displayed shows our daughter needs more supervision, monitoring, guidance, love and attention.
She needs her father.
Our daughter had a close call.
All I could think of is the father of 8 year old girl, Cherish Perrywinkle, whose mother was stupid enough to let her go with a stranger to get a hamburger. Cherish’s body was found the next day.
Turns out the stranger was a sex offender.
This happened in Florida.
Cherish’s father, Billy Jarreau, lives here in San Diego, California. He fought for years against a court system to get custody of this little girl. It seems he was fortunate enough to find himself a competent evaluator who recommended that the little girl be allowed to live with him in California. Unfortunately, his luck ended there. A Judge, Linda McCallum, decided otherwise and ruled that the little girl should live her mother in Florida.
The stranger that the mother had met only hours earlier had offered to buy Cherish a dress and a hamburger from McDonald’sThe 8 year old little girl is dead now.
I wonder if Duval County Judge Linda McCallum read past the first 5 pages of the father’s declaration. I wager that judge is now revisiting that file and perhaps taking a closer look. Flipping through pages, wondering if she missed something. Wondering if perhaps more attention should have been given to the other side of the story, the father’s side.
I hope that others will be looking into the case as well.
I’m also concerned because there are 7 registered sex offenders (according to Megan’s Law) living in her area where our daughter. Six of the seven have crimes described as:
LEWD OR LASCIVIOUS ACTS WITH A CHILD 14 OR 15 YEARS OF AGE
The sex offender who lives down her street does not have that description attached to his file; his simply says convicted of RAPE BY FEAR OR FORCE.
It worries me because I read a few weeks ago, I read, in a Facebook community group page, that a man in a van was attempting to pick up a child on her way to school. Ironically, Christy and another friend, Sharon Bryan, commented on that particular post about how well they look after their daughters.
Christy claiming that this is why she always picks up and drops off Megan. On February 24th 2012 there was an incident where Christy threatened to have my time taken away from me if I said anything about how Christy was allowing Megan to not only walk home from school but also walk an additional mile and a half to a friend’s house which at the time had no adults in the home. (Click Here)
But, I guess that I should feel lucky. I am not boarding a plane to Florida to bury my daughter like the father from San Diego. Our daughter didn’t get in the car with a stranger, he only handed her a flyer with an offer to be in a music video. The man probably wasn’t a sex offender; he was looking for extras for his music video.
I’m sure it was legitimate offer.
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