"Its past down through generations like a debilitating gene. Leaving a toxic trail of trampled hearts and emotionally crippled children who grow up not knowing any better. They grow up with their only real life example of how relationships work coming from a highly dysfunctional and disturbed parent."
Christy’s text message to Sheri trying to get information regarding communicating with me about our children being alienated
Forwarded to me by Sheri on April 10, 2013
“On another note that I wanted some clarification on was I was informed by someone I don't want to mention that you had either spoke with Dr. Mcguire Megan's therapist or wrote a letter for Joe? I am hoping that this is not the truth but if it is please let me know if you did in fact get involved. Because the source is pretty honest? I really have not talked With you in-depth about these issue with Joe and I as I did not want to burden you with my issues.
I know he had mentioned several times that he had spoken with you and you are on the same page as him however I try not to jump to conclusions with what he says. Nevertheless it was somebody else that told me about your involvment in my case with Joe. Text me bk to let me know either way, thanks.”
I am tempted to dissect the text message above for you and point out certain things. But I will leave that to you. Still, so tempting.
Forwarded to me by Sheri on April 10, 2013
“On another note that I wanted some clarification on was I was informed by someone I don't want to mention that you had either spoke with Dr. Mcguire Megan's therapist or wrote a letter for Joe? I am hoping that this is not the truth but if it is please let me know if you did in fact get involved. Because the source is pretty honest? I really have not talked With you in-depth about these issue with Joe and I as I did not want to burden you with my issues.
I know he had mentioned several times that he had spoken with you and you are on the same page as him however I try not to jump to conclusions with what he says. Nevertheless it was somebody else that told me about your involvment in my case with Joe. Text me bk to let me know either way, thanks.”
I am tempted to dissect the text message above for you and point out certain things. But I will leave that to you. Still, so tempting.
Instead let me tell you this...
I KNOW ABOUT FEAR I KNOW ABOUT PAIN
Late in February 2013, I started receiving texts and phone calls from Sheri Glendenning (Scroggins). See Texts
Sheri is the ex-wife of Michael Garrison, Christy's current husband. Sheri and Michael have 2 biological children. The two children also live with Christy and Mike. Yes, they are Megan’s step-brother and step-sister.
He is fourteen, she is ten.
They call Christy mom.
(I hyperlinked Michael Garrison. if you don't know about Mike, you should click on it.)
Sheri began sharing her living nightmare and I could relate because I know about living nightmares.
Sheri began sharing her horrific account of how Christy was also alienating the other two children (Christy’s Step-children) in her house against Sheri, their biological mother. These conversations were all recorded. Click Here
The account that Sheri shared with me and my wife was poignant and repulsive. Sheri broke down a few times while reliving some of the "terrible" things that Christy had put her and her children through. Sheri stated that Christy has caused her grief, "I've had so much pain over everything...”
I know about pain, I wanted to say, but Sheri had started crying.
In between sobs, she went on, “You just don't know all the pain and stuff that they put me through...”
I got an idea, I wanted to say, but I didn’t want to start crying as well.
Sheri also talked about being "scared" and "nervous."
I know about being scared and nervous. I have to sit in front a condescending commissioner who seems to take pleasure in admonishing her co-workers, attorneys, and pro se litigants fighting or their families.
Commissioner Daniel "temporarily" removed all my parental rights away and I am always afraid that my fury may be come through when I have to address her as "your honor." I feel that I have to address her as your honor; its not a choice.
Yes, your honor. May I speak on that your honor? It’s been a year and our daughter is in a downward spiral can I at least call her your honor? Can you at least give me one good reason why the “temporary” order to not contact (was the word you used “Bug”?) my daughter, your honor? Your honor, how fucking long is “temporary” your honor? See, I have three little girls at home and they are wondering where their sister is, your honor and a year is a long ass "temporary" your honor.
I Googled "your Honor" and I liked what I read but it is far from what I am experiencing in our court room. There were words like
respect, regard, justice, esteem, noble, wise...
I am waiting for signs all of the above
On June 24, 2013 at a little before Sheri's lunch break we spoke briefly on the phone. I asked if Christy had spoken with her regarding being on my witness list Sheri said yes. Go to Witness Intimidation
When I asked directly if it was Christy who spoke with her Sheri said that she wasn't feeling well, that she had to go and would talk to me later. She added that she was at her desk and shouldn't be talking even though she had consistently asked me to call her on her work phone. See text messages
Sheri and I never spoke again until i questioned her on the witness stand but, two days before our trial, via text messages, Sheri denied having said that, "U asked me and I never responded, remember?" See text messages on July 9, 2013
I don't blame Sheri for being afraid.
I know about fear. It is fear that makes me refer to Commissioner Daniel as your honor.
I know about fear, because I have experienced first hand what happens when you cross Christy. It's not pretty and she is relentless. She cut you down even if it means taking it out on her own children and that should scare the shit out of anyone.
That will teach me right Christy? By-the-way, check our daughter’s Twitter, Instagram, and text messages. Yeah, something’s wrong.
Yes, the teenage boy and the little girl call Christy mom but not by choice. Sheri speaks about how her children would come home to her a mess because Christy, the new woman in their father’s life is tormenting them—she will not respond to them unless they refer to her as mom. Click Here. Listen to Sheri's pain.
Then close your eyes, picture Christy, her size, her look that you see in the videos on this website, and imagine what it would be like for a child, 3, 4, 5 years old, to be ignored by the new woman in your father's life until you gave her the respect that she demanded and you called her mom.
I try to imagine that happening to Malia, Jaida, or Sophie but I can't. It would never be allowed and I would never lie to defend anyone who did such a thing.
So the boy and the little girl began calling Christy mom long ago,according to their biological mother, though not by choice.
Then Sheri tells me that Christy had the gall to tell her , "I'm these kids' mother. I'm their mother! You're not their mother. I'm their mother."
You will see the actual text exchange that started in February with Sheri reaching out and then you will read how Sheri ultimately changed her mind, retracting some statements, feigning that she doesn't recall hour-long conversations from a few weeks ago, and outright lying on the witness stand.
It was a train wreck.
On Wednesday, the train wreck continues; court recessed right in the middle of my questioning Sheri while she struggled with how to lie not only for Christy's sake but for her own sake. For sanity’s sake.
I understand Sheri. This is not only crazy behavior but it’s crazy-making behavior and you need to save yourself. I thought about that from time to time. Thought about saving myself and what’s left of my family.
But then something strange happens.
I can’t describe it.
There are no words. It’s just a thing. A thing triggered by a thought or the sight of one of our girls walking around the corner into our living room. So happy full of life, more than just a gleam in their eye, there is a radiant life force that brightens our home and brings sense of clarity to my soul. I know. Immediately I know. I can't simply save myself.
Then one thought quickly leads to another and then I end up with this: Our girls deserve better. they deserve the intact family that God placed together.
The three still at home and the one we are trying to save deserve the best fight we can give them.
For a million different reasons they deserve better but I will only give you one right now.
Just because...
Finish that sentence however you like...
Just because... they love their sister.
Just because...they miss her.
Just because... this is wrong on so many levels
Just because... they are all beautiful.
our girls have a sister that they love and who has been a significant part of their lives up until she was ripped away and I will fight to get her back...just because.
I am scared, nervous, and afraid. I know about those things as well.
I have dealt with Christy’s manipulation, threats, controlling, and her projection of all that’s frightfully wrong with her onto me and my wife.
A part of me, a small part, feels sorry for Sheri. But only a small part of me because Sheri is an adult. And scared and nervous or not, she had a choice. She could have told the truth.
She could have told the truth and perhaps saved at least three children now and God knows how many down the road.
If you know anything about this malady, and I pray you personally don’t, you know it’s a generational thing. It won’t stop because it can’t stop. Not on its own. Its past down through generations like a debilitating gene. Leaving a toxic trail of trampled hearts and emotionally crippled children who grow up not knowing any better. They grow up with their only real life example of how relationships work coming from a highly dysfunctional and disturbed parent.
An alienating parent with a personality disorder doesn’t wake up one day and ask what the hell they are thinking. They don't ask, "Was I alienated myself?" If they are incapable of self-soothing what chance is there of self actualization through exploration and reflection?
A disturbed, alienating parent’s psychopathology does not ever reason itself into clarity or the even approach the reality that while they are succeeding in hurting a loving parent (family) they are damaging their own child.
Its a life long sickness.
The whole of me feels sorry for all the children caught in the middle; they have neither a choice nor a chance. I can never blame our daughter or the other two children in that home.
And with that thought I don't feel sorry for Sheri at all.
Everything she stated in our conversations that spread over 3 months; everything that you will listen to if you click here, she is now denying. “Embellished” is the word that she uses. Sheri also adds, “not to mention I had a couple of drinks.”
Wait...What?!
I had to read that three times and then show my wife.
Honey, can you read this part out loud for me?
I'm sorry honey, come again.
What type of stranglehold would someone have to have on you for you to retract your account of someone tormenting you and your children and claim that you lied and were drunk for three months?
On the recordings you will hear Sheri’s concerns about Christy and Mike being threatening, controlling, and manipulating.
Threatening. Controlling. Manipulating.
The sick irony is that controlling and manipulating are the words that Christy has used to describe me and that our daughter Megan has been taught to use to describe me since she was 12.
Yes, I know about sick irony as well. A healthy parent is perceived as a menace by a court system fitted for the more disturbed parent to prevail.
Sick irony is parental alienation’s toxic friend.
So I questioned my witness and she lied. Under oath. Sheri lied for Christy. Sheri lied for her self.
But unlike Christy, Sheri is not very good at it.
Eventually, Commissioner Daniel stopped my questioning my witness to ask Sheri directly if anyone had intimidated her, threatened her, or otherwise asked her to curtail her testimony in court.
Sheri said no.
My thoughts went to Sheri's children and what Christy said to Sheri: You're not these kids' mom.
To the commissioner’s credit, she sees the obvious in this particular part of this case.
I think...
Did I tell you or did I tell you?
You can’t write this stuff.
I almost didn't write this. This all happened on July 11th, about 11 days ago.
But then I thought about not how sacred I was but what was I afraid of? A 4 year old child being made to call someone mom can be afraid. She is four....I am an adult
And I wondered silently, then out loud to my wife.
By being silent am I lying for myself? Am I lying...gulp...for Christy? What am I afraid of?
If I am lying as well by my silence, not wanting to say anything because I am afraid?
And if we are all a bunch of liars trying to save our own skins then who is speaking out for the children caught up in this mess?
If silence is consent, can the man that I aspire to be sit quietly allowing myself to condone the abuse that I know is happening?
If I don't speak out then who will be left to speak the truth for the three children in that house?
I will answer this way:
This is for the fourteen year old boy at a crucial point in his life. What is being done in that home is child abuse. It is disturbing behavior. It is wrong. It has to change because you deserve better.
This is for the ten year old girl that has her entire life ahead of her. If someone is attempting to get you to call them mom either by threat of consequences or withholding of attention or affection, know that they are wrong. and not worthy of the title. Its okay to say no to them and run to tell as many people as possible. People, good people will stand up for you because you deserve better.
This is for my daughter. I love you more than you know and as long as I breathe I will speak the truth, and as long as I can stand I will fight for you. I will ignore my fears and speak more truth than some may want to hear.
On Wednesday,I will not refer to our judge as your honor until she earns it, I will call the person who has broken up our family, Commissioner Daniel.
I KNOW ABOUT FEAR I KNOW ABOUT PAIN
Late in February 2013, I started receiving texts and phone calls from Sheri Glendenning (Scroggins). See Texts
Sheri is the ex-wife of Michael Garrison, Christy's current husband. Sheri and Michael have 2 biological children. The two children also live with Christy and Mike. Yes, they are Megan’s step-brother and step-sister.
He is fourteen, she is ten.
They call Christy mom.
(I hyperlinked Michael Garrison. if you don't know about Mike, you should click on it.)
Sheri began sharing her living nightmare and I could relate because I know about living nightmares.
Sheri began sharing her horrific account of how Christy was also alienating the other two children (Christy’s Step-children) in her house against Sheri, their biological mother. These conversations were all recorded. Click Here
The account that Sheri shared with me and my wife was poignant and repulsive. Sheri broke down a few times while reliving some of the "terrible" things that Christy had put her and her children through. Sheri stated that Christy has caused her grief, "I've had so much pain over everything...”
I know about pain, I wanted to say, but Sheri had started crying.
In between sobs, she went on, “You just don't know all the pain and stuff that they put me through...”
I got an idea, I wanted to say, but I didn’t want to start crying as well.
Sheri also talked about being "scared" and "nervous."
I know about being scared and nervous. I have to sit in front a condescending commissioner who seems to take pleasure in admonishing her co-workers, attorneys, and pro se litigants fighting or their families.
Commissioner Daniel "temporarily" removed all my parental rights away and I am always afraid that my fury may be come through when I have to address her as "your honor." I feel that I have to address her as your honor; its not a choice.
Yes, your honor. May I speak on that your honor? It’s been a year and our daughter is in a downward spiral can I at least call her your honor? Can you at least give me one good reason why the “temporary” order to not contact (was the word you used “Bug”?) my daughter, your honor? Your honor, how fucking long is “temporary” your honor? See, I have three little girls at home and they are wondering where their sister is, your honor and a year is a long ass "temporary" your honor.
I Googled "your Honor" and I liked what I read but it is far from what I am experiencing in our court room. There were words like
respect, regard, justice, esteem, noble, wise...
I am waiting for signs all of the above
On June 24, 2013 at a little before Sheri's lunch break we spoke briefly on the phone. I asked if Christy had spoken with her regarding being on my witness list Sheri said yes. Go to Witness Intimidation
When I asked directly if it was Christy who spoke with her Sheri said that she wasn't feeling well, that she had to go and would talk to me later. She added that she was at her desk and shouldn't be talking even though she had consistently asked me to call her on her work phone. See text messages
Sheri and I never spoke again until i questioned her on the witness stand but, two days before our trial, via text messages, Sheri denied having said that, "U asked me and I never responded, remember?" See text messages on July 9, 2013
I don't blame Sheri for being afraid.
I know about fear. It is fear that makes me refer to Commissioner Daniel as your honor.
I know about fear, because I have experienced first hand what happens when you cross Christy. It's not pretty and she is relentless. She cut you down even if it means taking it out on her own children and that should scare the shit out of anyone.
That will teach me right Christy? By-the-way, check our daughter’s Twitter, Instagram, and text messages. Yeah, something’s wrong.
Yes, the teenage boy and the little girl call Christy mom but not by choice. Sheri speaks about how her children would come home to her a mess because Christy, the new woman in their father’s life is tormenting them—she will not respond to them unless they refer to her as mom. Click Here. Listen to Sheri's pain.
Then close your eyes, picture Christy, her size, her look that you see in the videos on this website, and imagine what it would be like for a child, 3, 4, 5 years old, to be ignored by the new woman in your father's life until you gave her the respect that she demanded and you called her mom.
I try to imagine that happening to Malia, Jaida, or Sophie but I can't. It would never be allowed and I would never lie to defend anyone who did such a thing.
So the boy and the little girl began calling Christy mom long ago,according to their biological mother, though not by choice.
Then Sheri tells me that Christy had the gall to tell her , "I'm these kids' mother. I'm their mother! You're not their mother. I'm their mother."
You will see the actual text exchange that started in February with Sheri reaching out and then you will read how Sheri ultimately changed her mind, retracting some statements, feigning that she doesn't recall hour-long conversations from a few weeks ago, and outright lying on the witness stand.
It was a train wreck.
On Wednesday, the train wreck continues; court recessed right in the middle of my questioning Sheri while she struggled with how to lie not only for Christy's sake but for her own sake. For sanity’s sake.
I understand Sheri. This is not only crazy behavior but it’s crazy-making behavior and you need to save yourself. I thought about that from time to time. Thought about saving myself and what’s left of my family.
But then something strange happens.
I can’t describe it.
There are no words. It’s just a thing. A thing triggered by a thought or the sight of one of our girls walking around the corner into our living room. So happy full of life, more than just a gleam in their eye, there is a radiant life force that brightens our home and brings sense of clarity to my soul. I know. Immediately I know. I can't simply save myself.
Then one thought quickly leads to another and then I end up with this: Our girls deserve better. they deserve the intact family that God placed together.
The three still at home and the one we are trying to save deserve the best fight we can give them.
For a million different reasons they deserve better but I will only give you one right now.
Just because...
Finish that sentence however you like...
Just because... they love their sister.
Just because...they miss her.
Just because... this is wrong on so many levels
Just because... they are all beautiful.
our girls have a sister that they love and who has been a significant part of their lives up until she was ripped away and I will fight to get her back...just because.
I am scared, nervous, and afraid. I know about those things as well.
I have dealt with Christy’s manipulation, threats, controlling, and her projection of all that’s frightfully wrong with her onto me and my wife.
A part of me, a small part, feels sorry for Sheri. But only a small part of me because Sheri is an adult. And scared and nervous or not, she had a choice. She could have told the truth.
She could have told the truth and perhaps saved at least three children now and God knows how many down the road.
If you know anything about this malady, and I pray you personally don’t, you know it’s a generational thing. It won’t stop because it can’t stop. Not on its own. Its past down through generations like a debilitating gene. Leaving a toxic trail of trampled hearts and emotionally crippled children who grow up not knowing any better. They grow up with their only real life example of how relationships work coming from a highly dysfunctional and disturbed parent.
An alienating parent with a personality disorder doesn’t wake up one day and ask what the hell they are thinking. They don't ask, "Was I alienated myself?" If they are incapable of self-soothing what chance is there of self actualization through exploration and reflection?
A disturbed, alienating parent’s psychopathology does not ever reason itself into clarity or the even approach the reality that while they are succeeding in hurting a loving parent (family) they are damaging their own child.
Its a life long sickness.
The whole of me feels sorry for all the children caught in the middle; they have neither a choice nor a chance. I can never blame our daughter or the other two children in that home.
And with that thought I don't feel sorry for Sheri at all.
Everything she stated in our conversations that spread over 3 months; everything that you will listen to if you click here, she is now denying. “Embellished” is the word that she uses. Sheri also adds, “not to mention I had a couple of drinks.”
Wait...What?!
I had to read that three times and then show my wife.
Honey, can you read this part out loud for me?
I'm sorry honey, come again.
What type of stranglehold would someone have to have on you for you to retract your account of someone tormenting you and your children and claim that you lied and were drunk for three months?
On the recordings you will hear Sheri’s concerns about Christy and Mike being threatening, controlling, and manipulating.
Threatening. Controlling. Manipulating.
The sick irony is that controlling and manipulating are the words that Christy has used to describe me and that our daughter Megan has been taught to use to describe me since she was 12.
Yes, I know about sick irony as well. A healthy parent is perceived as a menace by a court system fitted for the more disturbed parent to prevail.
Sick irony is parental alienation’s toxic friend.
So I questioned my witness and she lied. Under oath. Sheri lied for Christy. Sheri lied for her self.
But unlike Christy, Sheri is not very good at it.
Eventually, Commissioner Daniel stopped my questioning my witness to ask Sheri directly if anyone had intimidated her, threatened her, or otherwise asked her to curtail her testimony in court.
Sheri said no.
My thoughts went to Sheri's children and what Christy said to Sheri: You're not these kids' mom.
To the commissioner’s credit, she sees the obvious in this particular part of this case.
I think...
Did I tell you or did I tell you?
You can’t write this stuff.
I almost didn't write this. This all happened on July 11th, about 11 days ago.
But then I thought about not how sacred I was but what was I afraid of? A 4 year old child being made to call someone mom can be afraid. She is four....I am an adult
And I wondered silently, then out loud to my wife.
By being silent am I lying for myself? Am I lying...gulp...for Christy? What am I afraid of?
If I am lying as well by my silence, not wanting to say anything because I am afraid?
And if we are all a bunch of liars trying to save our own skins then who is speaking out for the children caught up in this mess?
If silence is consent, can the man that I aspire to be sit quietly allowing myself to condone the abuse that I know is happening?
If I don't speak out then who will be left to speak the truth for the three children in that house?
I will answer this way:
This is for the fourteen year old boy at a crucial point in his life. What is being done in that home is child abuse. It is disturbing behavior. It is wrong. It has to change because you deserve better.
This is for the ten year old girl that has her entire life ahead of her. If someone is attempting to get you to call them mom either by threat of consequences or withholding of attention or affection, know that they are wrong. and not worthy of the title. Its okay to say no to them and run to tell as many people as possible. People, good people will stand up for you because you deserve better.
This is for my daughter. I love you more than you know and as long as I breathe I will speak the truth, and as long as I can stand I will fight for you. I will ignore my fears and speak more truth than some may want to hear.
On Wednesday,I will not refer to our judge as your honor until she earns it, I will call the person who has broken up our family, Commissioner Daniel.
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