"Does it suck having to go through this when all you want is to have a loving relationship with your child? Yes. Yes, it does. We, the targeted parents, live in an alternate reality."
After much thought and speaking with people that are familiar with this nightmare, I have decided to handle this particular incident in this manner.
To give some of you an idea of what we have to deal with, how dysfunctional and disturbed this family is here is yet another example:
Kaylee, Christy’s older daughter, has started commenting on my Facebook and of course making false accusations; both old and new ones. Apparently, she has unblocked me.
This all started about noon today.
(Link to the Facebook exchange then scroll down to Kaylee Godley)
Not so fast.
This is an example of where alienated parents have to make difficult, damned if you do, damned if you don’t decisions.
I know that this is not Megan reaching out to me. Furthermore, I know that it is something that Kaylee and or her mother are scheming or have put her up to. How do I know this? I have been dealing with this family for years. In the past Kaylee has been exposed for posing as Megan and engaging in text exchanges with me.
Furthermore, Megan has been ignoring my calls and text messages for weeks if not months. Saturday was supposed to be our first visit in months but since Commissioner Daniel included in her ruling that visitations are at the discretion of a 15 year old, Megan has cancelled.
Another indicator that this is not Megan is that at this time in her life Megan is preoccupied with other things and it is not likely that a 15 year old --in that household-- is going to activate a Facebook account and have her first post be and profile picture be a photograph taken 2 years ago of herself and her mother, Christy.
Additionally, the timing of “Megan’s” friend request coming only an hour after Kaylee’s attacks is rather suspect. And finally, guess who is the first and only person who has “Liked” Megan’s picture? Kaylee Godley.
So my dilemma is that if I don’t accept this friend request, it gives Christy Alienator Ammo to further convince our daughter, Christy supporters, and our family court system that I am unloving or don’t care about Megan because I didn’t respond by confirming the friend request.
But how far down the Rabbit Hole did you want to go?
Because as soon as this post is noticed, some additional scheming takes place.
Now because I have chosen this action, it will be claimed that I am way off base, paranoid, if not delusional for “assuming” such things. This will further justifying –in the alienator’s eyes—why Megan doesn’t want anything to do with me.
The alienator’s can now say that Megan has attempted to reach out and that they are exhausted from trying everything under the sun to get me to “change” and become...I don’t know...either the loving father that I used to be...or...not be the monster that I have become in recent months. Depending on which version of the events they decide to go with. So far I have been accused of both changing and not changing.
The other side of the coin is this:
What if I just accept a friend request from my daughter? Don’t think for a moment that I don’t know how insane it is for a loving father to even have to ask himself this question.
But the truth of the matter is that I then have to ask myself what kind of abuse do you think is in store for me? What will I subject myself to if I accept this request? I have not disclosed the abusive text and voice conversations that I have had from a brainwashed daughter. Why, because they are not coming from my daughter. Again, some of you will know exactly what I am talking about.
But then having “Megan Barrow” as a friend and at the same time freely protesting and advocating against this abuse the way I plan to continue can be used to paint me in a negative light if not by Kaylee acting as “Megan Barrow” then by an alienator’s supporter saying how could he post such things while having his daughter as his “Facebook friend.”
Damned if I do, damned if I don’t.
Does it suck having to go through this when all you want is to have a loving relationship with your child? Yes. Yes, it does. We, targeted parents live in an alternate reality.
This is such an ugly, toxic, and dysfunctional situation that anyone in their right mind would run as fast and as far away as possible from it. Believe me I would if our daughter wasn’t caught right in the middle of it.
The one thing I promised myself was that I would expose and speak out about this horrid abuse. So, I plan to do this. I will continue to share every bit of this poison thrown my way so that others will see it for what it really is: An insidious, vile form of child abuse.