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Text exchange with a 12 year old trying to get her way but I stand my ground. Not a problem for a parent, we do what we need to do. There are three sets of text messages below that are very informative and revealing.
Text exchange with a 12 year old trying to get her way but I stand my ground. Not a problem for a parent, we do what we need to do. There are three sets of text messages below that are very informative and revealing.
- April parrots her mom, saying she is afraid of me and I'm controlling and manipulative.
- Christy says "she normally never lies to me about anything. She is a wonderful daughter and i am proud of her."
- Mike comes in to try to "rescue" April
THE TELLING TEXT EXCHANGE
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So that is how that exchange went...I am not about to give in, especially to that type of behavior. I don't think anyone would blame me. But when you are dealing with this type of situation--these type of people--it doesn't end there and nothing is that easy.
Below are some text exchanges with Christy. From: Joe <Joe> Thu, Mar 10, 2011 at 7:58 PM
To: Christy April had a GREAT time this weekend, it was good to have our April back. But it is weird that we haven't heard from her since Sunday. Been trying to get a hold of her. Did u or kaylee take her phone away again? What happened? U know this is the only way I can communicate with her. Did she go to therapy this week? Would like to pick her up this weekend to continue to rebuild our relationship. ________________________________________ From: Christy Fri, Mar 11, 2011 at 12:16 AM To: Joe Mike took her phone on tue cuz but she got it back wed. I asked her to call u to say hi and updAte u on her week. She has had her phone all week nevertheless. Her counseling is every other week so next wed is her appt. I think a friend of hers who moved away is visiting this weekend but call her to comferm. Thanks ________________________________________ From: Joe <Joe> Fri, Mar 11, 2011 at 7:57 AM To: From: Christy April say she just got her phone back this morning...apparently she is lying...and she has been ignoring me and tammy all week..I don't believe I should reward this behavior by letting her hang out with her friends, do you?..I am trying to teach her about accountability, boundaries and remind her that she is not the parent. It is crucial at this age. I will be picking her up on Saturday. Thanks ________________________________________ From: Christy Fri, Mar 11, 2011 at 9:20 AM To: Joe Mike just told me he had took her phone away longer than i thought. Dont know what meg is telling u but she normally never lies to me about anything. She is a wonderful duaghter and i am proud of her. I have this weekend off and i am hoping u take her on the weekends i work. Let me know either way but we need to agree on the weekends u will be taking her. ________________________________________ From: Joe <Joe> Fri, Mar 11, 2011 at 9:45 AM To: From: Christy I think it is unreasonable to only be allowed to see April 4 days out of the month. So I will be picking her up on Saturday. ________________________________________ From: Christy Fri, Mar 11, 2011 at 10:08 AM To: Joe K just let her know. Thanks |
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Regarding the step-dad, he is neither parent of the year nor a rocket scientist. He attempts to bully me into letting April stay at her mother's this weekend by approaching me at gymnastics in front of a number of parents. I ignore most of what he says, trying to look around him and continue to watch our girls practice gymnastics. I also let him know that I had already spoke with Christy and had made a decision that April was not going to be allowed to stay. Mike keeps coming back and making snide remarks and then moves away. He makes statements like I am a lousy father who doesn't care about his own daughter. He does this enough times that eventually another parent turns to me and asks me what his problem is. I explain that he is April's step-dad.
At this point I already believe that I am going to be kept from picking up April from gymnastics yet again. So I text the following to Christy: From: Joe Sat, Mar 12, 2011 at 11:40 AM To: From: Christy Am I going to be allowed to take April or not? Mike is over here accusing me of not caring about April not returning his calls and of drama all in front of other parents..he needs to not harrass us at gym. _________________________ From: Christy Sat, Mar 12, 2011 at 1:13 PM To: Joe Joe u are accusing a very good man of wrongful things. He is a very good father to ur daughter and u should respect that. He is very concened as am i ab _________________________ From: Christy Sat, Mar 12, 2011 at 1:13 PM To: Joe out ur spiteful actions. Please work this out with april and mike. _________________________ From: Joe Sat, Mar 12, 2011 at 1:24 PM To: From: Christy I am just telling u what happened...in front of other parents who can corroborate. I am sorry just stating facts. Not trying to be offensive. Want u to know. Next time I will just document it and not fil u in if its going to trigger you. _________________________ From: Christy Sat, Mar 12, 2011 at 1:40 PM To: Joe It is almost impossible to rationalize with you. I am sorry he embarrased you. Thanks for letting me know. _________________________ From: Joe Sat, Mar 12, 2011 at 1:55 PM To: From: Christy Its ok..not embarrased. Thanks but what am I not being rational about...we're curious.
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