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CONTENT OF LETTER ONLY: My comments are in red.
I have met with Megan alone, with her father, with her father and stepmother, with her mother, and with her mother and stepfather in addition I have met with both parents alone.
I had asked Mr. Barrow and Mrs. Garrison to send me copies of any e-mail correspondence between them.
I have read numerous emails from Mr. Barrow, from his wife, and from Mrs. Garrison as well as correspondence between Mr. Barrow and Mrs. Garrison. This is interesting, since twice Beth McGuire had stated that she does not read my e-mails.
Mr. Barrow is a prolific communicator. Not sure what the purpose of this comment was.
I spoke with Megan’s previous therapist, Shirley Stutson as well as Jerri Barrow, Mr. Barrow’s sister-in-law and mother of Megan’s cousin who accompanied the family on the New York vacation. Sounds like a list of people whom Christy wanted her to hear from.
I received a treatment summary from Mr. Barrow’s therapist, Carol Teitelbaum, MFT. Our therapist, Carol teitlebaum, is a well-known, highly respected therapist, phone calls were never returned. Dr. McGuire has not communicated with our therapist, even after our therapist sent our session notes.
Megan’s maternal half-sister, Kaylee and Brian Godley, Kaylee’s father sent me emails and have invited me to speak with them by phone. No kidding. This is the older daughter who a previous psychologist has stated is a huge part of the problem and her father whom I met once or twice and haven't seen in over 10 years.
I was unable to reach Mr. Barrow’s oldest daughter, Stephanie by phone. Convenient.
I have also read a mediation report from May 2011 and a letter from Amy Miller, Ph.D. dated October 2011 summarizing her 3190 counseling with the family. I brought this to her attention. She attempted to give it back to me. I insisted that she keep it and read it.
These are my impressions. Megan and her father had a reasonably close relationship when she was a young child and she spent approximately equal time with each parent. If you look at the evidence on my website, text messages and e-mail exchanges and voicemails you would see that our great relationship continued on until last year and is only at rsik or threatened when it is being interfered with.
When Mr. Barrow moved to Palm Springs when Megan was 8, things began to change. Not true. Actually, two years later, and for obvious reasons Megan cried to come live with us. Again, the evidence shows otherwise.
Mr. Barrow was “focused” on his wife-to-be and his visits with Megan were confined to weekends. Not true at all. Anyone will tell you that my focus is on my children. Always.
During one visit, Mr. and Mrs. Barrow got into “a really big fight” during which Mr. Barrow hit his wife with his fist and spit on her. Mr. Barrow denied Megan’s request to go home. Megan began to be afraid her father might hit her. This is the first time that I have heard this accusation. So it took 4 therapist for them to come up with this one.
When Megan was 10, Mrs. Barrow kicked Mr. Barrow out of their home because he hit her daughter, Jaida. Later they reconciled. Not true. Jaida was spanked. Tammy and I did get in a fight over it.
When Megan was 12, the family was on a trip to North Dakota to visit Mrs. Barrow’s grandmother.
A boy texted Megan with what she described as “casual talk.” This is where it gets good. I will show you Megan's and Christy's idea of casual talk.
Mr. Barrow “flipped out” and “blew his top.” So, according to who? Megan? There were four other adults there who will be writing statements about this. Or should we just take the word of a programmed 14 year old. Is it beginning to sound like we are looking for reasons to blame me? Oh just wait.
Mr. and Mrs. Barrow took a family vacation to New York in summer 2012 when Megan was 13. This included Megan and one of her girlfriends; her male cousins, Eli (then 9) and Christian; <<---He wasn't there
her paternal half-sister, Sophie; and her stepsisters, Jaida and Malia. During the vacation, Megan was found to be texting with a boy. There is so much more to this interesting story. THSI SI WHERE YOU WILL SEE what the real problem is.
Mr. and Mrs. Barrow berated Megan for what was described as “hours.” According to Megan we yelled at her until 3 am in the morning. I will post pictures and video of NYC trip and of that night. You can tell me if Megan seems traumatized.
Furthermore, this event was discussed in a family session with Shirley Stutson, MFT, Megan’s then-therapist and Mr. and Mrs. Barrow agreed with Megan’s description of the event. Never. This never happened.
However, in the next session, Mr. and Mrs. Barrow denied they had behaved in such a negative way. We yelled at Megan for violating a boundary that was set by all four parents AND Shirley Stutson, her therapist. Megan was not allowed to have a boyfriend because the last one was a hoodlum, a bully who caused turmoil in the school and the Sheriif had to be involved. My self and another parent also met with the superintendent of schools and he assured us that something was already being done. 2 weeks later the Sheriff was involved and he and another boy were expelled.
This turn-about has contributed significantly to Megan’s distrust of her father. I would love an explanation to this.
Mr. Barrow, I have no doubt, loves his daughter and wishes the best for her. However, Mr. Barrow’s style of parenting has led to this breach between them. If you look at our text exchanges for the last 3 years, you will be convinced otherwise. Actually, you just need to look at one incident. all on text message.
Mr. Barrow has been unable or unwilling to consider that how he has handled events has led to the alienation between him and his daughter. Dr. Beth Mcguire has been unwilling to consider that this may be a classic case of parental alienation and poor parenting on Christy's part. Something that all the evidence points to.
Instead, Mr. Barrow blames Mrs. Garrison’s parenting style and accuses her of actively trying to alienate Megan from him. Again, look at the evidence.
Mr. Barrow believes this passionately and has been unable to focus on what it is about his interactions with Megan that have disaffected her from him.
In his distress over his damaged relationship with Megan, Mr. Barrow has grasped at the idea that she is being alienated from him and created a website devoted to this idea. More like a place of documentation and bringing awareness how this destroys lives.
In addition, he has used FaceBook to tell his story. I use facebook to communicate with my friends and family and bring awareness to parental alienation and its devastating effects on healthy families.
Both of these vehicles cause Megan a great deal of distress and humiliation. A good indicator of what is going on in an adolescense life is looking at their text messages and social media. I assure you, what I post on my website is not what is distressing Megan.
Megan used to participate in gymnastics. Until her mother kept pulling her out to keep me from seeing her.
Her father often drove from Indio to watch Megan practice and perform. Every single weekend. Beth, at least get that right. Every SINGLE weekend and stayed the entire practice. I drove 2 hours along with my family every single weekend to spend time with Megan. In six years you know how many times Christy showed up? 4 0r 5 times. And two of those times are documented on this website; She only showed up to keep me from Megan.
He would talk to the other parents about his perceptions of the difficulties between him and Mrs. Garrison. Actually, other parents spoke to me about what was going on with Christy's other children and in Christy's home. I defended her as much as I could.
Megan eventually dropped out of gymnastics because she found this embarrassing. I think she was pulled from gymnastics. Additionally, I have text where megan wanted to quite gymnastics on a few other occasions. And statistically, this is an age when teenagers pursue other interests. But it's easier to just blame me right?
I do not intend to say that Mrs. Garrison is a parent without any faults. Get out. But are you kidding me? What about all the stuff caught on video, audio, text, e-mails? Custody interference...
However, at this point, I do not see that Mrs. Garrison is actively trying to alienate Megan from her father. Beth, are you kidding me? I am just going to list off some things. Statutory rape. Underaged live-in girlfriends for her adult son. Minors drinking in her home. Kaylee doing drugs in her home. Domestic violence. I will place the links HERE so that you can see: Heres some
In an effort to develop some positives between Mr. Barrow and Megan, I suggested that the families meet in the middle and allow Megan to visit with her paternal half- sister, Sophie whom she was missing very much. Megan also misses me, her step-mom Tammy and her other two sisters.
After the first time I suggested this, Mrs. Garrison contacted Mr. Barrow by email to set up a meeting but Mr. Barrow did not follow through. Not true, you will see e-mail exchange. Beth knows this!
The second time, I suggested more specifics about the arrangements: meeting at a park midway where Mr. Barrow could supervise (his request) the visit from a distance allowing Megan and her sister to spend time alone together. Dr McGuire is again leaving out very relative details as you will see.
However, when Mrs. Garrison contacted Mr. Barrow by email, he said he was unavailable to meet and suggested Megan come to his house for a visit. Not true. Its interesting how a professional, degreed and experienced psychologist would purposefully leave out relevant details to further her agenda. Its interesting that a psychologist would have an agenda. to Have emails to prove it this is wrong...and Dr McGuire KNOWS this. I sent her a long, detailed e-mail explaining where she was mistaken. see e-mails. I am thinking she knows that I will not get a trial.
Mr. Barrow then posted on FaceBook a photo of Sophie with “Parental Alienation hurts more than just the loving Parent….Christy, I want my sister back! It’s that SIMPLE” and “I haven’t seen Megan since October 2012. She was my best friend. Christy, I want my sister back! It’s that simple!” Copy attached.
This is a tragic situation. Megan is a lovely adolescent, attractive and articulate, with a pleasing personality. Beth she is amazing, but we both know you have seen her text, Facebook, and Intagram...Click here
She has returned to visiting her father numerous times without there being much change on her father’s side. No she hasn't. She hasn't been here since October 2012.
Mr. Barrow has a lot of individual work to do before reconciliation therapy with Megan could be effective. Wow Beth, you are a piece of work.
It would be very important for Mr. Barrow’s therapist and the reconciliation therapist to be in close communication. Our therapist has been waiting for Dr. Beth McGuire to contact her as indicated by Dr. McGuire. However it seems like Dr. McGuire is only interested in contacting those who will corroborate her initial assessment on day one when she erroneously assumed that I had been ordered for therapy when in fact I asked for a therapist familiar with the nightmare that we are going through.
Please do not hesitate to contact me with any questions or concerns.
Very respectfully yours,
Beth A. McGuire, Ph.D.
Copy Diane Shropshire, Counsel for Christine Garrison
Joe Barrow, pro per
I have met with Megan alone, with her father, with her father and stepmother, with her mother, and with her mother and stepfather in addition I have met with both parents alone.
I had asked Mr. Barrow and Mrs. Garrison to send me copies of any e-mail correspondence between them.
I have read numerous emails from Mr. Barrow, from his wife, and from Mrs. Garrison as well as correspondence between Mr. Barrow and Mrs. Garrison. This is interesting, since twice Beth McGuire had stated that she does not read my e-mails.
Mr. Barrow is a prolific communicator. Not sure what the purpose of this comment was.
I spoke with Megan’s previous therapist, Shirley Stutson as well as Jerri Barrow, Mr. Barrow’s sister-in-law and mother of Megan’s cousin who accompanied the family on the New York vacation. Sounds like a list of people whom Christy wanted her to hear from.
I received a treatment summary from Mr. Barrow’s therapist, Carol Teitelbaum, MFT. Our therapist, Carol teitlebaum, is a well-known, highly respected therapist, phone calls were never returned. Dr. McGuire has not communicated with our therapist, even after our therapist sent our session notes.
Megan’s maternal half-sister, Kaylee and Brian Godley, Kaylee’s father sent me emails and have invited me to speak with them by phone. No kidding. This is the older daughter who a previous psychologist has stated is a huge part of the problem and her father whom I met once or twice and haven't seen in over 10 years.
I was unable to reach Mr. Barrow’s oldest daughter, Stephanie by phone. Convenient.
I have also read a mediation report from May 2011 and a letter from Amy Miller, Ph.D. dated October 2011 summarizing her 3190 counseling with the family. I brought this to her attention. She attempted to give it back to me. I insisted that she keep it and read it.
These are my impressions. Megan and her father had a reasonably close relationship when she was a young child and she spent approximately equal time with each parent. If you look at the evidence on my website, text messages and e-mail exchanges and voicemails you would see that our great relationship continued on until last year and is only at rsik or threatened when it is being interfered with.
When Mr. Barrow moved to Palm Springs when Megan was 8, things began to change. Not true. Actually, two years later, and for obvious reasons Megan cried to come live with us. Again, the evidence shows otherwise.
Mr. Barrow was “focused” on his wife-to-be and his visits with Megan were confined to weekends. Not true at all. Anyone will tell you that my focus is on my children. Always.
During one visit, Mr. and Mrs. Barrow got into “a really big fight” during which Mr. Barrow hit his wife with his fist and spit on her. Mr. Barrow denied Megan’s request to go home. Megan began to be afraid her father might hit her. This is the first time that I have heard this accusation. So it took 4 therapist for them to come up with this one.
When Megan was 10, Mrs. Barrow kicked Mr. Barrow out of their home because he hit her daughter, Jaida. Later they reconciled. Not true. Jaida was spanked. Tammy and I did get in a fight over it.
When Megan was 12, the family was on a trip to North Dakota to visit Mrs. Barrow’s grandmother.
A boy texted Megan with what she described as “casual talk.” This is where it gets good. I will show you Megan's and Christy's idea of casual talk.
Mr. Barrow “flipped out” and “blew his top.” So, according to who? Megan? There were four other adults there who will be writing statements about this. Or should we just take the word of a programmed 14 year old. Is it beginning to sound like we are looking for reasons to blame me? Oh just wait.
Mr. and Mrs. Barrow took a family vacation to New York in summer 2012 when Megan was 13. This included Megan and one of her girlfriends; her male cousins, Eli (then 9) and Christian; <<---He wasn't there
her paternal half-sister, Sophie; and her stepsisters, Jaida and Malia. During the vacation, Megan was found to be texting with a boy. There is so much more to this interesting story. THSI SI WHERE YOU WILL SEE what the real problem is.
Mr. and Mrs. Barrow berated Megan for what was described as “hours.” According to Megan we yelled at her until 3 am in the morning. I will post pictures and video of NYC trip and of that night. You can tell me if Megan seems traumatized.
Furthermore, this event was discussed in a family session with Shirley Stutson, MFT, Megan’s then-therapist and Mr. and Mrs. Barrow agreed with Megan’s description of the event. Never. This never happened.
However, in the next session, Mr. and Mrs. Barrow denied they had behaved in such a negative way. We yelled at Megan for violating a boundary that was set by all four parents AND Shirley Stutson, her therapist. Megan was not allowed to have a boyfriend because the last one was a hoodlum, a bully who caused turmoil in the school and the Sheriif had to be involved. My self and another parent also met with the superintendent of schools and he assured us that something was already being done. 2 weeks later the Sheriff was involved and he and another boy were expelled.
This turn-about has contributed significantly to Megan’s distrust of her father. I would love an explanation to this.
Mr. Barrow, I have no doubt, loves his daughter and wishes the best for her. However, Mr. Barrow’s style of parenting has led to this breach between them. If you look at our text exchanges for the last 3 years, you will be convinced otherwise. Actually, you just need to look at one incident. all on text message.
Mr. Barrow has been unable or unwilling to consider that how he has handled events has led to the alienation between him and his daughter. Dr. Beth Mcguire has been unwilling to consider that this may be a classic case of parental alienation and poor parenting on Christy's part. Something that all the evidence points to.
Instead, Mr. Barrow blames Mrs. Garrison’s parenting style and accuses her of actively trying to alienate Megan from him. Again, look at the evidence.
Mr. Barrow believes this passionately and has been unable to focus on what it is about his interactions with Megan that have disaffected her from him.
In his distress over his damaged relationship with Megan, Mr. Barrow has grasped at the idea that she is being alienated from him and created a website devoted to this idea. More like a place of documentation and bringing awareness how this destroys lives.
In addition, he has used FaceBook to tell his story. I use facebook to communicate with my friends and family and bring awareness to parental alienation and its devastating effects on healthy families.
Both of these vehicles cause Megan a great deal of distress and humiliation. A good indicator of what is going on in an adolescense life is looking at their text messages and social media. I assure you, what I post on my website is not what is distressing Megan.
Megan used to participate in gymnastics. Until her mother kept pulling her out to keep me from seeing her.
Her father often drove from Indio to watch Megan practice and perform. Every single weekend. Beth, at least get that right. Every SINGLE weekend and stayed the entire practice. I drove 2 hours along with my family every single weekend to spend time with Megan. In six years you know how many times Christy showed up? 4 0r 5 times. And two of those times are documented on this website; She only showed up to keep me from Megan.
He would talk to the other parents about his perceptions of the difficulties between him and Mrs. Garrison. Actually, other parents spoke to me about what was going on with Christy's other children and in Christy's home. I defended her as much as I could.
Megan eventually dropped out of gymnastics because she found this embarrassing. I think she was pulled from gymnastics. Additionally, I have text where megan wanted to quite gymnastics on a few other occasions. And statistically, this is an age when teenagers pursue other interests. But it's easier to just blame me right?
I do not intend to say that Mrs. Garrison is a parent without any faults. Get out. But are you kidding me? What about all the stuff caught on video, audio, text, e-mails? Custody interference...
However, at this point, I do not see that Mrs. Garrison is actively trying to alienate Megan from her father. Beth, are you kidding me? I am just going to list off some things. Statutory rape. Underaged live-in girlfriends for her adult son. Minors drinking in her home. Kaylee doing drugs in her home. Domestic violence. I will place the links HERE so that you can see: Heres some
In an effort to develop some positives between Mr. Barrow and Megan, I suggested that the families meet in the middle and allow Megan to visit with her paternal half- sister, Sophie whom she was missing very much. Megan also misses me, her step-mom Tammy and her other two sisters.
After the first time I suggested this, Mrs. Garrison contacted Mr. Barrow by email to set up a meeting but Mr. Barrow did not follow through. Not true, you will see e-mail exchange. Beth knows this!
The second time, I suggested more specifics about the arrangements: meeting at a park midway where Mr. Barrow could supervise (his request) the visit from a distance allowing Megan and her sister to spend time alone together. Dr McGuire is again leaving out very relative details as you will see.
However, when Mrs. Garrison contacted Mr. Barrow by email, he said he was unavailable to meet and suggested Megan come to his house for a visit. Not true. Its interesting how a professional, degreed and experienced psychologist would purposefully leave out relevant details to further her agenda. Its interesting that a psychologist would have an agenda. to Have emails to prove it this is wrong...and Dr McGuire KNOWS this. I sent her a long, detailed e-mail explaining where she was mistaken. see e-mails. I am thinking she knows that I will not get a trial.
Mr. Barrow then posted on FaceBook a photo of Sophie with “Parental Alienation hurts more than just the loving Parent….Christy, I want my sister back! It’s that SIMPLE” and “I haven’t seen Megan since October 2012. She was my best friend. Christy, I want my sister back! It’s that simple!” Copy attached.
This is a tragic situation. Megan is a lovely adolescent, attractive and articulate, with a pleasing personality. Beth she is amazing, but we both know you have seen her text, Facebook, and Intagram...Click here
She has returned to visiting her father numerous times without there being much change on her father’s side. No she hasn't. She hasn't been here since October 2012.
Mr. Barrow has a lot of individual work to do before reconciliation therapy with Megan could be effective. Wow Beth, you are a piece of work.
It would be very important for Mr. Barrow’s therapist and the reconciliation therapist to be in close communication. Our therapist has been waiting for Dr. Beth McGuire to contact her as indicated by Dr. McGuire. However it seems like Dr. McGuire is only interested in contacting those who will corroborate her initial assessment on day one when she erroneously assumed that I had been ordered for therapy when in fact I asked for a therapist familiar with the nightmare that we are going through.
Please do not hesitate to contact me with any questions or concerns.
Very respectfully yours,
Beth A. McGuire, Ph.D.
Copy Diane Shropshire, Counsel for Christine Garrison
Joe Barrow, pro per
Mike Krukiel's Alienation
In 1973 Mike Krukiel's parents were among the first to be divorced under Connecticut’s new no-fault divorce laws. Mike saw plenty of fights between his parents leading up to the divorce. His father had moved out of the house and had been given the typical “visitation schedule” of Saturday overnight into Sunday every other weekend that included himself and his sibling. He was 7 years old. Time with his father was reduced from daily time together to every other weekend.
Mike's mother began a campaign of denigrating his father and projecting her feelings of hatred for him onto Mike. He was always grilled by her when returning from visits with his father. He remembers she would always make him wait by the door when his father came to pick the kids up for visitation. She would require Mike's dad to knock on the door to their house, she'd come downstairs and start an argument often resulting in her denying the visitation in its entirety.
Telephone contact with his father between visits was never allowed. If his father did call to talk to the kids, Mike's mother always intercepted the calls and questioned the children, start an argument or just plain hang up and not allow them to ever speak to him.
For years, Mike's mother convinced him that his father had started another family and had other children that he cared about more than he cared for Mike & his sister. In time, Mike would learn that his father had a vasectomy while still married to his mother (that she had authorized). There was no other family. There were no other children. The stories were all lies.
Go to Full story:
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/syndicatednews/2011/11/02/parental-alienation--four-generations-in-a-row
In 1973 Mike Krukiel's parents were among the first to be divorced under Connecticut’s new no-fault divorce laws. Mike saw plenty of fights between his parents leading up to the divorce. His father had moved out of the house and had been given the typical “visitation schedule” of Saturday overnight into Sunday every other weekend that included himself and his sibling. He was 7 years old. Time with his father was reduced from daily time together to every other weekend.
Mike's mother began a campaign of denigrating his father and projecting her feelings of hatred for him onto Mike. He was always grilled by her when returning from visits with his father. He remembers she would always make him wait by the door when his father came to pick the kids up for visitation. She would require Mike's dad to knock on the door to their house, she'd come downstairs and start an argument often resulting in her denying the visitation in its entirety.
Telephone contact with his father between visits was never allowed. If his father did call to talk to the kids, Mike's mother always intercepted the calls and questioned the children, start an argument or just plain hang up and not allow them to ever speak to him.
For years, Mike's mother convinced him that his father had started another family and had other children that he cared about more than he cared for Mike & his sister. In time, Mike would learn that his father had a vasectomy while still married to his mother (that she had authorized). There was no other family. There were no other children. The stories were all lies.
Go to Full story:
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/syndicatednews/2011/11/02/parental-alienation--four-generations-in-a-row
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